"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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If she likes you it doesn't matter what you say

MisterAl

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I learned something this week: If she likes you, it doesn't matter what you say or when you say it.

For me this changes the first phonecall after a date from something where I have to worry about saying the wrong thing to simply an IL test.

I had taken a girl out for the afternoon walking along the riverfront boardwalk and for some fried clams. It was a great time but it ended weakly. I got, "it was nice meeting you" and a peck on the lips, but only because I moved in on her to get it. Overanalyzing, I decided the afternoon was too AFCish.

I worried about whether I should wait a couple days or not before calling, what should I say, what do I do if I get the voice mail, etc. My friend told me to "do, not think" and gave me an idea.

I called that next evening and left a voice mail. On that voice mail message I complained that I got her voice mail, then had a fake conversation where I answered her imaginary questions of how I was doing. Then I told her when we would next meet, that she was going to bake something for me and we would watch a movie at home because I think she's cute. I hung up and thought it was the most ridiculous voice mail I'd ever left.

She called back a day later, apologized for not being around and said it was a great idea. My voice mail did two things: It told her what to do to get my attention and judged her IL by her response. No longer will I sweat the timing of a follow-up call because it's simply an IL judgement and not more.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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This is true, but the key that guys have to remember is that she needs to like you first. You have to say and do things purposely if she is indifferent toward you.
 

MightyMate

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Its true. But also, if she doesnt like You its mad important what You say. And sometimes if she likes You but You say too much crap she may stop liking You. I suggest not speakin at all but kissing her.
 

Latinoman

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MightyMate said:
Its true. But also, if she doesnt like You its mad important what You say. And sometimes if she likes You but You say too much crap she may stop liking You. I suggest not speakin at all but kissing her.
Very good points.
 

SELF-MASTERY

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MightyMate said:
Its true. But also, if she doesnt like You its mad important what You say. And sometimes if she likes You but You say too much crap she may stop liking You. I suggest not speakin at all but kissing her.
:up:

Let your bodies do the talking; the mouth produces shyt.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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