"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Identity Crisis

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Ok, I am willing to put aside my style (and the ego that comes with it!)
temporarily, for the sake of working on my game.
When I got my game tight, I'll be reverting back to the style I love.
What style would you guys recommend for sargin' online?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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My best results from online dating (and I've had some great results) have come from being very brief in my initial communication, asking a question but not sounding too interested... Give them something to respond to. Not something boring, either. I spammed messages based around "Would you rather fight 100 duck-sized horses, or one giant horse-sized duck?!" at girls for a couple of days once, that did OK.

I've never scored any results from an opening message longer than three or four sentences. I also never tried a copy + paste message, although people do that and apparently do well from it.

I've had situations where I give my number after 8 messages and they call me, situations where they gave me their number after about 20 without me asking, and one situation where I swapped something like a hundred messages with a girl before we got a hotel and had awesome secks - don't EVER think there is one perfect formula, because women are all different and you need to play it by ear. Improvisation is the one great skill, probably in every area of life, for me anyway.
 

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:up: Good stuff rhythmic, but I was referring to personal style, dress code and all that:cool:
 

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Ohhhhh... Well here's my OKC profile:

http://www.okcupid.com/profile/WelshDrummer

I change up my profile info fairly frequently, I get bored. But it's always this sort of thing. Very little though/effort went into this, so it's probably terrible, but I get respectable results.
 
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