Once upon a time, during my sophomore year in HS , I was sitting home one day eating a sandwich when my phone rang. On the other end was a woman who told me that she thought I was hot and wanted to have sex with me. Straight away, my first though was that one of my friends put this girl up to a prank, so I was very skeptical, and I pressed hard to find out who this was. She was reluctant to tell me, but then she finally did:
Her: "I'm April so-and-so from school".
Me: *blank* … "Doesn't ring a bell".
Her: "Really?! You don't know who I am?!"
Me: "Ummm….no. Sorry".
Her: "I don't believe you. You really don't know who I am?!"
She wanted to meet up, to which I reluctantly agreed. After getting off of the phone, I flipped through the previous year's school yearbook to see who she was: Senior, who at the time of this call was then a freshman in college. Not just A cheerleader, but the HEAD cheerleader. Voted most popular in school, most likely to succeed, blah blah blah, ad nauseum.
At that time I was just this "rocker" type who played in bands and was the furthest thing from a Football playing jock type you could possibly imagine. Her world and my world mixed like oil and water.
She insisted that we meet up very discreetly, as if this were some secret exchange where I was slipping military secrets to the Chinese, but it all happened in the end.
From that very moment, for the 30 some odd years that would follow afterwards, I stopped believing you had to be X-Guy to get Y-Girl. I learned there are ALWAYS exceptions. These limiting ideas can always be shattered, but if you adopt these limiting concepts as universally true... they will be.
You will always disqualify yourself from any possible exception to the rule. Forever. Each and every limiting belief takes you out of the running to be proven wrong. Every exception will pass you by. And every time you spout this belief, you are not only giving more strength to this lie in your head, but you are also seeding it into someone else's.
You have to be successful and powerful to get hot women. Lie.
You have to have a rock hard beach body to get hot women. Lie.
You have to be the most popular, the most well known, the most famous... Lie.
You have to drive a hot car to get a hot girl. Lie.
You have to have model good looks of a 10 to get hot women. Lie.
All of these things will certainly help and can certainly elevate things with such women, make it easier, but they are not universal truths. The more of these universal truths you believe in, the more likely they will absolutely be true and the more likely you will be absolutely convinced of them... alone... at home... pissed off at the world and the women in it.