"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I was so anxious about stuff and then BOOM: Meditation!

TheSlasher

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This morning was almost great. I learned how to drive a car. It will be very useful for me once I start having my own car that I can use to go to Law school, except that... I almost hit a store. A motorbike. And a little girl. In front of her mother. Who was also running that store.

It was a scene: The mom screaming at me; me and my instructor giving out our apologies to the mom and the driver of the motorbike; the onlookers. They were all correct -- my apologies won't do any good if I happen to hit that child. What's worse is that I only thought that I almost hit a store. It was only later when the mom started screaming that I realized that I almost harmed a little child. What's even worse is that when it all happened, I was thinking about impressing a chick that I wasn't even that interested. Though I'm not sure how much it affected my driving, but yeah, I'm just saying it for full disclosure.

Fast forward, driving practice was done. By then, I was now thinking about how I can make the compromise on a certain conflict between a sub-plot on the novel I'm working on, and my knowledge about those kind of settings. I was frustrated about how I couldn't study my lessons in preparation for my college degree's licensure exam, because my eyes were too tired to do it. I was also very anxious, because on this same night, my mom brought with her the car that I used when the accident almost happened. I was anxious about how mom's gonna scold me if any of those neighbors (or worse, the angry mom herself) told her about what happened. I tried sleeping on it and it can't work it's way into me.

So I just decided to sit on a cross-legged position (not the full lotus one) and let my mind just be.

Then in what felt like a few flashes of a second, I found the compromise for my novel -- how the script would sound like, and how the characters involved would feel as that scene unfolds. Much better, I also realized that getting scolded by mom for a night, and even for days, is such a small price to pay for a very very valuable lesson in driving: to keep my attention on the lookout for everything. And if by some luck, everybody has forgotten about the incident too soon, then I have been very much bailed out and was given a free lesson!

I know this isn't really about attracting women in a direct manner, but you know, I was really happy about how meditation (or maybe, it's just a coincidence) made my load a little lighter even just for a while, so I thought that maybe this is worth sharing.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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PeasantPlayer

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Driving a car is not that hard, mentally you will have to be very alert and aware. As for meditation...I want to dabble in that. I been having terrible anxiety and panic attacks here and there
 
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