"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I want to learn Japanese!

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^^^ Wow, language exchange on Skype. I never heard of it or thought of it, but it's a great idea.

I'm going to check that out and see if they have any Chinese speakers on there.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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FireOnTheMountain said:
Oh, and a warning about learning Japanese from anime.



I knew a guy who did that. He actually was able to have a conversation with some Japanese people using what he learned in anime. But they ended up busting out laughing because the style of words in anime isn't really the same as conversation.



Imagine if someone started talking to you like they talk in Lord Of The Rings. Really serious, dramatic language. That's what it was like.
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Awsome! It can really be done!!!
 
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taiyuu_otoko said:
Great idea. I forgot about that. If you can, look for a japanese supermarket. Likely they'll have a bulletin board where you can advertise for "language exchange." I met several friends that way.

Also, there are loads of sites that specialize in language exhange. You can talk over skype a couple times a week. There are LOT of bored lonely housewives in Japan that would LOVE to practice english with a gaijin in exchange for some japanese practice.

About.com is a good place to start.
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That's a good idea. I can't leave the house ATM so all my learning needs to be in front of the computer.
 
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