flippinfreak
Master Don Juan
lol Maximus, did you sit for an hour waiting for your page to load?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I walked away but she thinks she didn't do anything wrong.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
girlsarecrazy
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UPDATE:
She called me after she got out of school worried. She actually apologized. Then i just said to look past it don't worry about it and explained that i've been stressed with school.
Then she finds an excuse to come over to drop off my homework assignment that i didn't really need until a couple of days later. I played hard to get. I was like i don't really need the assignments.
So i said, "Don't come if you don't plan to stay for a little"
She went out of her away and asked permission to stay at my place for a little. Even called mid way through her visit to stay longer..
Well got overselves and we are on complete better terms.
We made up, started fooling around, got her crazy to an extent, then told her some BS that my mom was coming home and it was time for her to leave.
So i left it on a good note.
I'm content. Thanks for all your help.
She called me after she got out of school worried. She actually apologized. Then i just said to look past it don't worry about it and explained that i've been stressed with school.
Then she finds an excuse to come over to drop off my homework assignment that i didn't really need until a couple of days later. I played hard to get. I was like i don't really need the assignments.
So i said, "Don't come if you don't plan to stay for a little"
She went out of her away and asked permission to stay at my place for a little. Even called mid way through her visit to stay longer..
Well got overselves and we are on complete better terms.
We made up, started fooling around, got her crazy to an extent, then told her some BS that my mom was coming home and it was time for her to leave.
So i left it on a good note.
I'm content. Thanks for all your help.
flippinfreak
Master Don Juan
Why'd you make up some BS that your mom was coming home?girlsarecrazy
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We didn't have the house to ourselves so we couldn't get into anything serious. So i just teased her and left her on a good note. Save the fun for another time.
The past three times we fooled around it was just me pleasuring her because it wasn't the right time and place for sex. I didn't want to add a fourth time in a row with me doing all the giving and no recieving. So i had her begging for it, played around, teased her, and left her hanging. She'll want it more tommorow when i'll have the house to myself.
The past three times we fooled around it was just me pleasuring her because it wasn't the right time and place for sex. I didn't want to add a fourth time in a row with me doing all the giving and no recieving. So i had her begging for it, played around, teased her, and left her hanging. She'll want it more tommorow when i'll have the house to myself.
I'd say you were overanalysing a bit too, but hey man we all do it. One time me and my girl were in my room, door shut and quite possibly about to get frisky (because of what happened next I can't remember whether or not I went through), I turned around for TEN SECONDS and when I turn around she's txting someone. No big deal I think. I went to go grab us some snacks and drinks (lol I'm the host), come back and she's gotten another txt and she's replying to this one too. The thing is though it was one of her ex's.
That pissed me off a little. I told her so too. Nothing brutal, just 'aaahahaha, don't you think it's a little rude to txt your EX BOYFRIEND while you're laying on my bed?' I wasn't overly rowr about it but I let her know I wasn't pleased.
I read a little of your following posts, and yes there is a difference of intimacy between our two situations - but bro I would have walked away too (and believe me I have). Maybe because the convo was just dry.
In summary try not to anaylse so much, but if you walk you walk and it's no biggy. Ask yourself how she would have handled had you done the same to her. If she wouldn't have liked it, feel it out and make sure it doesn't happen to you. If she says she wouldn't mind, take a step back. Sometimes these chicks honestly won't register that what they are doing is wrong, and that's a recipe for conflict of interest and unhappiness to you right there.
HR
That pissed me off a little. I told her so too. Nothing brutal, just 'aaahahaha, don't you think it's a little rude to txt your EX BOYFRIEND while you're laying on my bed?' I wasn't overly rowr about it but I let her know I wasn't pleased.
I read a little of your following posts, and yes there is a difference of intimacy between our two situations - but bro I would have walked away too (and believe me I have). Maybe because the convo was just dry.
In summary try not to anaylse so much, but if you walk you walk and it's no biggy. Ask yourself how she would have handled had you done the same to her. If she wouldn't have liked it, feel it out and make sure it doesn't happen to you. If she says she wouldn't mind, take a step back. Sometimes these chicks honestly won't register that what they are doing is wrong, and that's a recipe for conflict of interest and unhappiness to you right there.
HR
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.