I think we need LTR section here...pointers for my situation would be helpful!

[solo1]

Anyway for LTR it'd be helpful to have a section in this board, because most of this section is about DJing women. Plus the fact the DJ bible teaches how to game women and attract them...but after it's all said and done what's left is a LTR.

Anyway I just got back from a date with this chick, she really digs me and we have strong chemistry and get along very comfortably cause we have so much in common (as i discovered today!). seems like she wants a LTR w/me and i wouldnt mind either...

But anyway although i've been on 2 dates so far, it feels practically like we already are in a relationship! holding hands, my arm around her shoulders, her head leaning on my shoulders.
Silent moments where we enjoy each other's company. she lets me make all sorts of moves on her and she doesnt care (in fact she wants it!). Of course all this is great and i have nothing to complain about.

She also told me i was the only guy from school she's seeing. She told me what she thought of me...at first she thought i was a serious guy (before she knew me), but now realizes that im interesting.
Of course i didnt tell her what i thought of her...which would give away my mystery too easily.

Sometimes i wonder if all of this is too much too soon...i mean if me and her have no problem with it. But i hope down the road this will not be the cause of a breaking point.


What's good and bad? -
- Is being (too) available a good thing or bad? Instead of meeting once a week, she wants to meet on breaks during school!
- So far we're not playing any games, and she's very mature for her age. But we both are very honest with each other, we even tell each other our problems (some of it). Which sort of kills unpredictability. But in general i do know more about her than she does me. Tone it down?
- I agreed to meet up with her, her friend and bf next week...sorta like a double date...good or bad idea?
- I treat her like a gentleman (mostly) ...good/bad?
- Final overall question:
What must i do to keep things interesting? What things should i avoid to talk about? ...basically down the road i want things to stay as they are now.

 

[Lost In Translation]

my opinion

Quote : solo1
But anyway although i've been on 2 dates so far, it feels practically like we already are in a relationship! holding hands, my arm around her shoulders, her head leaning on my shoulders.

2 dates is not LTR

you are doing great but don't trip. stay cool. YOU are the prize.

Quote : solo1
Silent moments where we enjoy each other's company. she lets me make all sorts of moves on her and she doesnt care (in fact she wants it!). Of course all this is great!

awww... that brings warmth to a pimps heart

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She also told me i was the only guy from school she's seeing. She told me what she thought of me...at first she thought i was a serious guy (before she knew me), but now realizes that im interesting.

interst level high

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Of course i didnt tell her what i thought of her!

good stuff

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Sometimes i wonder if all of this is too much too soon...i mean if me and her have no problem with it. But i hope down the road this will not be the cause of a breaking point.

you control the pace

don't let the relationship be a runaway horse

you are the captain of the ship you choose the course and speed

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Instead of meeting once a week, she wants to meet on breaks during school!

my advice is NOT to meet her during school breaks

what she wants and what is in the best interest of keeping the relationship fresh and healthy are two different things

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So far we're not playing any games

LOL ok no games that YOU ARE AWARE OF

i am not saying they are bad games i am just saying there is always something going on in any form of human relationship

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and she's very mature for her age

yeah young women grow up fast these days

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But we both are very honest with each other, we even tell each other our problems (some of it). Which sort of kills unpredictability. But in general i do know more about her than she does me. Tone it down?

yeah tone it down. if she has 10 million problems she has girlfriends to spill her guts too. you are a man and your role in her life should be different to that of her girlfriends.

YOU HAVE ONLY BEEN ON 2 DATES

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I agreed to meet up with her, her friend and bf next week...sorta like a double date...good or bad idea?

hmm... i think she views you as potential LTR

she wants to get her best friend to sign off on the relationship

if a LTR is what you want with this girl then go and make good report with her best friend

be funny and charming and get along good with the other guy on the double date

BE COOL

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Final overall question:
What must i do to keep things interesting? What things should i avoid to talk about? ...basically down the road i want things to stay as they are now.

avoid talking about your problems with her. if you need to talk to people about your problems talk to other men ( your friends ) or your dad or whatever

don't tell her your whole life story

don't go to her school lunch break idea every day

i see you raising her up and raising up the relationship. this is bad. you have only been on 2 dates so snap out of it. if you raise her up you will view her differently ie. she is so wonderful a princess a queen etc etc

THIS WILL CAUSE YOU TO ACT DIFFERENTLY

A CHANGE IN MINDSET WILL INITIATE A CHANGE IN BEHAVIOUR

you will act too needy clingy whatever and push her away

the change also affects her because you are not a mystery/challenge/the prize and so her behaviour changes

YOU... YOU are the catalyst for change

you stay cool and she will stay cool
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there is a LTR forum somewhere i think penkitten may have a link PM her


Lost In Translation

**AUSTRALIAN STREET PIMP**

Quote : Pook
”Being a Don Juan is not a net sum of smooth manuevers and methods but of your own outlook on the world and on women. ANYONE can memorize 'techniques', but FEW can change the way HOW they think. Women will be able to sniff out the former. But with the latter, women will be clawing each other for you.

A Don Juan is a state of mind, not a list of methods and tricks.”

 

[solo1]

hmm yea, well if that's the case i shouldnt have told her my schedule. Nor should i have told her i'd call her...besides that's the break i hang out w/my friend. I hope she wont take it too harshly if i dont call her after telling her i would. But if she ends up calling me that day i have no clue what to say

As for the double date thing...well i asked her what her plans are for thanksgiving. She told me her plans and invited me. and foolishly i agreed...bah.

Anyway overall not bad, we take turns paying for each other when we do stuff. And usually she wants the date to last longer, but usually im the one to end it.

As for the problems, we didnt relaly talk about it. She just told me about her heartburn and i told her about my insomnia...nothing else really. But i will try to avoid any more of this discussion in the future.

thx for the tips

 

[comic_relief]

For anyone wanting an LTR forum. if you follow the DJ Bible and have improved to all areas in your life where you would like to be. Then, you should be fine in an LTR. Just never stop improving.

Originally posted by solo1
But anyway although i've been on 2 dates so far, it feels practically like we already are in a relationship! holding hands, my arm around her shoulders, her head leaning on my shoulders.
Silent moments where we enjoy each other's company. she lets me make all sorts of moves on her and she doesnt care (in fact she wants it!). Of course all this is great and i have nothing to complain about.

Your point? Some girls like closeness. I'm not being mean or anything but you cannot truely know a girls true color until after time. It took me over two months before I called my relationship an LTR because we finally decided on us being boyfriend/girlfriend.

Originally posted by solo1
- Is being (too) available a good thing or bad? Instead of meeting once a week, she wants to meet on breaks during school!

Do what you want. You set how fast that you want the relationship goes. Why go on her time frame. If you are asking us for advice on what to do. Then you are must likely thinking that it is a bad idea. Am I correct?

Originally posted by solo1

- So far we're not playing any games, and she's very mature for her age. But we both are very honest with each other, we even tell each other our problems (some of it). Which sort of kills unpredictability. But in general i do know more about her than she does me. Tone it down?

I'm going to tell you a secret about LTR's. Mystery kills an LTR. Yeah, in the beginning it is good to have mystery but believe me it isn't a good thing to have once you are in an LTR. Since it is only the beginning. I suggest keep a bit of mystery.

Originally posted by solo1
- I agreed to meet up with her, her friend and bf next week...sorta like a double date...good or bad idea?

She wants to get the ok from the friend. I say go with it and you can do your data hunting as well. Generally people attract people of the same yolk. Just be wary that you should be well behaved.

Originally posted by solo1

- I treat her like a gentleman (mostly) ...good/bad?

Its a good thing to treat her gentlemanly as long as you aren't overly doing it like going to the extreme. I treat my girlfriend like a lady and actually listen to her.

Originally posted by solo1

- Final overall question:
What must i do to keep things interesting? What things should i avoid to talk about? ...basically down the road i want things to stay as they are now.

your doing a fine job right now. Why not keep doing what your doing.

If you aren't comfortable talking about something change the subject.

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LIT's advice was right on the money. Weren't you the one that said last week that there were no good girls out there? See there is hope for everyone even Viper (ok, maybe not that much hope in the world ).

comic_relief