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I think this girl is playing mind games with me

Bricka

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Hey guys, I need your help, I don’t know what to think of this.

Summary below for you guys that don’t want to read a lot, but it misses a lot of details.

First a little back story. I met this girl while dancing in a latin club. Kissed her on the dance floor(my first k-close) and the rest of the night went well and she went home after the club because her friend was driving and apparently she’s quite conservative. Second date we went out for drinks in the daytime, then as it got dark we stopped off in the park where we walked around, talked, kissed, and sat on a park bench and she stroked my **** for a bit although she kept saying “it’s too soon”. A lot of details left out but not too important. Tried asking her out again but she was busy. Saw her in the same latin club 3 weeks later(I hadn’t called her since I asked her out) and her and her friends were looking at me quite a lot even while I was dancing with other women. She was quite cold but warmed up a little after and there was a lot of kino, but no kissing.

I didn’t contact her for a month after that even though I told her I’d give her a call during the week. I know this was a bad on my part for waiting so long. I gave her a call a few days ago and asked her out to a movie. First hour in the theatre goes by without much of anything. I hate movies for dates :p , but eventually I tell her to come closer and put my arm around her and she clasps both my hands and is very warm about it all. As the movie ends I tell her to give me a kiss but refuses, which stung a little considering how hot everything was during the last 2 dates but I expected that after a month of no contact.

On the long ride home we were talking and I had her laughing. Obviously she was enjoying herself. She did something here that threw me for a loop. She put on one of her music CD’s and told me to put on a specific song. I oblige, and after the song goes for about 30 secs she tells me the name of the song, “I don’t love you anymore” while giggling and saying “that’s the song’s name!” . Is this a mind game or a not-so-subtle hint?

Lots of talking and me teasing her during the ride back. One time I took the teasing a little too far which she didn’t hesitate to tell me about. The rest of the time she was giggling when I teased her, even after this.

For some reason though I felt either she might be playing games with me or is just cold for some reason(The kiss refusal still in my mind) and as she was about to get out all I could say was “cya”, I couldn’t muster any other words due to her coldness, after I said this she repeated it in a low tone while sounding (to me) a little disappointed(atleast that’s what it sounded like at the time). She got out, said bye, I said bye. End of Story.

Summary:
-Meet girl at latin dance club. Second date a week later with lots of hot action though no sex.
-Don’t call for a month after she says she’s busy when I asked her out for a third date.
-Go out with her to a movie, some cuddling in theater but refuses kiss. Lots of talking and laughing after although I sense she’s a bit cold on the ride home.

What do you guys think? Am I LJBF’d? did I screw up?
 
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She Thinks Of You As A Walking Atm And Is Playing U Like A Fiddle Til Something Better Comes Along.
 

Infamous_Wolf

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So dude, check this out. You are not in control of the situation because you are not in control of yourself. At this point, I doubt there is much you could do to repair whatever you might've had going with this lady. the key here is that you need to take the focus off the girl. she doesn't mean anything. you don't need her to survive, only yourself. If you feel the vibe that she's not interested in you, DO NOT WASTE YOUR TIME ANYMORE. move along. take a lesson from this experience. keep improving yourself, never stop
 
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