"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I think she may just be friendly or...

calfre3

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Hey All,
Maybe I'm thinking way to much. That's what my fraternity bros tell me during my last year of college.

I would like to think I have a shot with this humbling 21yr old girl. I'd say there are signs pointing to possibly ante'ing up the stakes.

She's blossoming between my best bud and I and being more extroverted through the same network of friends of ours.
I don't want to jump the gun although I want to know, if any, to romanticize a bit. I guess, I don't want to underestimate her outgoing-ness.

How to raise the stakes in a cool, calm, and collected manner?

I've heard of listen to her behavior advice;
Recent event: I walked into our college study room, and I see my bud John. I placed my backpack on the desk. As soon as I turn around to walk out and get coffee from next door, I see the girl and another acquaintance, Dude. Either, They met up unintentionally before reaching the study room or intentionally. Either way this plays into my friendly theory. Well we all study. Independently. My bud from see's me from outside, opens the door, & asks if I'd like donuts. I return with donuts and surprisingly she remembers that I mentioned donuts was what I decided to give up for my Lent.

See, I probably my just be overthinking. Thought Input would be grateful yall!
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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SgtSplacker

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So someone offers you donuts, a girl remembers you said something about donuts earlier and now you think she's into you?

Just ask her out dude!

I don't even understand half of what you wrote...

" My bud from out of no-wheres see's I from outside, opens the door, & asks if I'd like donuts. I return with donuts and surprisingly she remembers that I mentioned donuts " WTF?
 

SmooveMooves

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Yeah, stop being so tentative and just ask her out brah.

You can't calculate her exact emotions or opinion of you.

Plus her remembering you said/did something doesnt mean she likes you.

always Assume Attraction.

To many men these days with this passive aggressive attitude, take charge

Chat her up and try to get her out on a date. If she declines, fine, her loss, and you move on to bigger and better females. Which is certainly better than contemplating if she's interested in you or not.

And two tips:

1. I would refrain from using real names. This is a public forum and all it takes is the right Google search & BAM! The Female see's her name and recognizes her situation you described, and you got yourself an awkward conversation.

2. Improve your English just a Tad bit more. SgtSplacker is right to inquire wtf were you saying in that last bit. LOL
 

teddy

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Assume attraction. If she doesn't bite, forget it and try on another one. Life is much simpler this way and you'll get more of what you want while expending relatively less effort than you are right now.
 
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