I think I'm slipping HELP!!!

[DJStudent]

Ok, it's been awhile since I've been back here. This site has done a lot for me but I have been so busy with graduation/moving/work/ and the list goes on basically, I am not on top of my game like I use to. This site has help me a lot in terms of being single and I was happy being single and dating other girls. Now I got into a relationship about 3 months ago and she's not the "one" or anything like that but I feel like I'm falling back into my afc days now that I'm "comfortable".

I have so much on my mind about everything else that I can't stay sharp around her. I believe that what I think about all have negative attachment to them. Like moving, cleaning up, looking for new suitable roomates, then the work from 9-5 which is boring to start off with (I'm sure it will pick up later). She obviously is always on my mind because she's like the only fun thing for me right now but even the fact that I'm thinking about her so much is driving me nuts. I know this is a big NO but I just can't help it in my current state.

I need some help in getting me get back my mode of thinking. Point me back to anything in the DJ boot camp or share some words of wisdom. I need to get her off my mind so that I can think normally now.

 

[sca_p]

You know...there's nothing wrong with admitting you like a girl you're in a relationship with and taking the relationship seriously. If you love the single life, then don't be in a relationship, it's as simple as that.

A word from the wise: don't fall into routines. Work schedules and stuff like that, you can't change, but do something spontaneous every so often. Surprise her. It doesn't have to be big stuff, either. It can be as small as leaving a package of candy in her purse, or trying a new restaurant. As long as you keep doing new things (and she'll reciprocate), it won't get boring.

 

[jophil28]

It sounds as if your positive emotions are all originating from your relationship with her. You say that your thoughts about other events and situations are all negative. Therefor it is most likely that she is the ONLY source of happiness and joy. That is a good way to explain WHY you think about her too much.
Easy solution. Date other women as well or find a fun hobby pronto.
You have ALL your emotional investment in one account..
Bad investment strategy...

 

[DJStudent]

Yeah I know that right now all of my positive thinking is just leading to her. I know that it leads to why I'm always thinking about her. I need some refreshers or something you guys have done to relieve this type of thinking. I do take the relationship seriously but I think by me being the way I am now, it will harm the relationship because I won't be the DJ I was but slipping into the AFC. I do have hobby that takes all my time which is dancing, but she's in it too. Problem is that she's very new at it and she wants me to dance with her all the time. I'm almost professional and it bores me to dance with new dancers all the time, even her. I do it to make her happy but it shows in my dancing.

It's hard for me to find a different hobby outside of my work and dancing, that's basically all my time already.