"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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i suspect she just wants attention and someone to listen to her?

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ok i picked up this 30 something year old lawyer on Saturday in a supermarket, we talked for ages and i left with the digits. i assume she might just be an attention wh0re and for someone to listen to her so i text her 3 days later to get together for a drink. she agreed and we met tonight.

it basically was her monologueing all night with me interrupting from time to time to try to steer the convo in the way i wanted it to i.e. sexual talk.. she mentioned to me on Sat that she wears silk lingerie in red and gold (i had said earlier they were my favorite colors and im naturally drawn to that) i'd like to think that was an IL sign but it's more of a wh0ring for attention c0cktease kind fo comment.. i brought it up in the date and said 'so when will i get to see this classy lingerie?' she goes 'you probably wont..' not in a dismissive tone but nor seductive either (that made me think immediately hmm.. she isn't interested) i knino'd her a lot, played with her hands stroked her leg but she didn't reciprocate.. i tried to push pull leaning back to see if she leant in, she did it once. basically none of the kino was reciprocated.

then you hear the standard talk of the guys she's dated in the past 'millionaires etc etc sociopaths' typical successful lawyer who runs in rich circles vip etc wine and dine. am i basically wasting my time?

i felt she just was seeking attention the whole time and the whole date was about her and listening to her, she didn't ask me any questions about me showing me any interest. i did feel i was being used just as some orbiter to listen to her cos she's starved of male attention. the fact she didn't make an effort to get dressed up for me tells me everything.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Women in their 30's are like married men who take off their wedding ring to see if they still "got it".

That's all it was about. Proving to herself that she "still has it" and she can still attract men. She wants to know she is still sexy enough to have men drooling over her.

She was looking for an ego/self-esteem boost. Validation.

I've been gamed by teases and attention wh0res in the same fashion. Follow this simple rule:

If you can't tell if she is interested, she isn't. :)
 

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pete101 said:
ok i picked up this 30 something year old lawyer on Saturday in a supermarket, we talked for ages and i left with the digits. i assume she might just be an attention wh0re and for someone to listen to her so i text her 3 days later to get together for a drink. she agreed and we met tonight.

it basically was her monologueing all night with me interrupting from time to time to try to steer the convo in the way i wanted it to i.e. sexual talk.. she mentioned to me on Sat that she wears silk lingerie in red and gold (i had said earlier they were my favorite colors and im naturally drawn to that) i'd like to think that was an IL sign but it's more of a wh0ring for attention c0cktease kind fo comment.. i brought it up in the date and said 'so when will i get to see this classy lingerie?' she goes 'you probably wont..' not in a dismissive tone but nor seductive either (that made me think immediately hmm.. she isn't interested) i knino'd her a lot, played with her hands stroked her leg but she didn't reciprocate.. i tried to push pull leaning back to see if she leant in, she did it once. basically none of the kino was reciprocated.

then you hear the standard talk of the guys she's dated in the past 'millionaires etc etc sociopaths' typical successful lawyer who runs in rich circles vip etc wine and dine. am i basically wasting my time?

i felt she just was seeking attention the whole time and the whole date was about her and listening to her, she didn't ask me any questions about me showing me any interest. i did feel i was being used just as some orbiter to listen to her cos she's starved of male attention. the fact she didn't make an effort to get dressed up for me tells me everything.
Based off your version of the story the chick sounds like an insecure chick who needs to brag for attention and validation by dating "millionaires etc.".

Would Bill Gates sit there telling chicks he's the second richest man in the world? No. He wouldn't have to nor would he be impressed by chicks like her. He's seen and most likely done it all. That chicks attitude would completely change in the presence of dudes like Gates as "millionaires, lawyers etc." are nothing to them and they've dealt with and known countless. She'd be sucking up and on her best behavior.

The best thing you could've done is let her blab then excused yourself to the restroom and left without her knowing.

A chick like that is completely clueless and beyond help. Nothing more than a silly twit who needs to re-assure herself of her "accomplishments" to "lessers" while doing the same and only wh0ring herself out to millionaires.


Some dudes would play the game with her, BSing, bragging etc to try and get some. Some chicks aren't worth the trouble.

Keep her number for the hell of it. If she asks YOU out then you might want to see how it goes. If she doesn't. Don't bother with her. She's a lost soul.

I would've said after she finished talking all night: "Judge Pete101 has reached his verdict. You bore me to tears counsel. Good day."
 

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I was going to stop reading when I saw "lawyer chick" lol.

She's basically talking down to you (big time) as lawyer chicks typically do.

They are so skilled at being condescending that you might not notice it at first. She might even appear quite charming and likeable to an inexperienced guy. It's all an act.

Next her ASAP.

I was on a date with one once...

HBlaw: So what movies have you see lately?

Mike: Gran T o rino. Did you see it?

<HBlaw lets out a barely audible dismissive sigh>

<She switches to more obvious condescending tone.>

HBlaw: WELL, I saw it, but the ending was anti-CLIMACTIC.

<Mike is very patient and polite, but ready to let her have it by the end of the date.>

Mike: I hope you're not anti-climax-ic.

HBlaw: <evil stare>

Mike: <ready to burst out laughing.>

HBlaw: Which way are you headed out?

Mike: <Pointing> This side door.

HBlaw: I'm going out the front door.

HBlaw: It was nice meeting you.

Sage and I know what "It was nice meeting you" means lol. I covered it in the female translator.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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