"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I screwed up an kissed another girl

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So I have been dating this girl for about 5 months now, officially exclusive for about a month now, and everything is going great and I have virtually no problems with this girl.

Well I was bar-tending the other night, and long story short I ended up kissing another girl who I used to know but hadn't seen in forever, because she got up on the bar and her friends were doing body shots off her, and then pretty much everybody was cheering me on to do a body shot off of her and I refused a few times, but I was drunk and finally did one, and then kissed her for a couple of seconds. I was really drunk, but I blame myself, not the alcohol.

Now the real question is what do I do about the situation. As soon as I did it I felt horrible and immediately regretted even getting into the situation. I now know for sure that I will never kiss/cheat on any girlfriend I ever have in the future. My g/f and the other girl are not friends but there is a small possibility that they could run into each other because the other girl knows who my g/f is.

Should I confess and risk the relationship, or should I just take it as a lesson learned and never do it again. I feel horrible and my conscious is really getting to me. I think what is worse is that I didn't even enjoy it what so ever and now I have the guilt, because I really truly like my girlfriend.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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horaholic

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Pretend it never happened. If she finds out, you should own up to it, and tell her the honest truth. From where I'm at, it doesnt sound super bad on your part anyway. I highly doubt the other girl will say anything about it anyway.
It was ONE kiss that went nowhere. Its not the end of the world.

If she did the EXACT same thing to you, would you want to know about it? I wouldn't. I wouldnt believe her if she said it meant nothing, and regretted it, and all that either, so it would be better for me not to know. If it REALLY happened like that, I would forgive her, but I would never be convinced that it was just that innocent. But, thats just me.
 

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thanks for the response, what you said makes total sense. If the roles were reversed, I probably wouldn't ever fully trust her again since it would be hard to believe for it to be that innocent. However i would forgive her if I could really prove to her that it was that innocent. Except there is no way to prove that to her, and understandably she would only assume the worst.

In the end, I am still the same guy I was before I screwed up(if not better since I feel bad about it there is even less temptation to do it again). So at this point telling her would only make me feel better about getting it off my chest, and would probably hurt her more than anything.

Anybody else with any advice either confirming this viewpoint or contradicting it?
 

eaglez1177

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Dont bring it up to her. Thats just gonna cause a ****load of problems and drama that no guy wants to deal with. Unless that girl you kissed is a total b*tch, then she shouldnt go off telling your gf about what happened. If your gf does find out though, take it like a man, apologize, and hope she forgives you.
 

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It was only a kiss man its no big deal. Its not like you fvcked her. Forget it and don't bring it up.
 

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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

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