"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I screwed it up.. Or low IL? Anyways, please lay into me so I can pick myself up.

dji_21

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Hi! thanks for the previous responses to this situation... I'll give you an update of the situation that many people were helping me with...

Please know that I have been meeting other girls during this period too... even though I think I've shown some oneitis traits with this one...

Summary: I emailed her... she emailed back... I write back giving her my number... She then sends me a text me a couple days later saying "Hey! It's ___. sorry I didn't respond to your email, got caught up doing blah blah blah, clearly working hard :)", and I just gave a friendly but short reply (kind of pissed she didn't show much interest / write back my email.

This is where I messed up big time. After about a week from our text exchange (she didn't seem that interested, I was going to wait for her to write me or write her when I am going to be in her city in a few weeks)
By accident I sent her a text message that was suppost to be sent to another friend (nothing meaningful, just part of a normal conversation), so I wrote her again saying "sorry I just sent a msg by mistake. hey, is it fine if I give you a call at this number sometime?"

I haven't heard back (it's been 24 hours).... I'm assuming I next her and she's definately not interested... At least I got my answer instead of playing lame text messages back and forth...

What are your thoughts? Where did I go wrong? Was her interest level just never there? I know I should have probably jsut called right away. Thanks, again... Pretty disappointed by not hearing back from her.

Only thing I can think of is she thinks I'm a "player" trying to get tons of numbers because the only reason I texted her after a week is because I wrote her a text by mistake - so she's kind of insulted, which I think there is a slim to none chance of this.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Iceberg

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There's really not enough going on between you and this girl to say if anything's right or wrong.

I wouldnt ask a girl via text for permission to call her. That's kinda weird. But overall, all I can tell is that this "relationship" existed entirely over the internet. Which means nothing.

So, to answer your "Where did I go wrong" question:

By overanalyzing a fairly meaningless situation. You got some girl's number over the internet, texted a few times, and nothing happened. There was no date, no sexual tension, no emotion whatsoever. Nothing here to analyze.
 

dji_21

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Iceberg - Here's the story with this girl - my original post:

"Had class with this girl for 2 weeks(now class is over). We worked together alot and she was really into me. One day I asked for her e-mail, she grabbed a pad and wrote it down and turned red and started stuttering, saying she checks it everyday. Only bad thing I did was I joked that I'd email her in a couple months (because we're both stupid busy till then- she knows that, but I wanted to try to point out my intention was personal in nature) "

I assume I forget about her for now? See if I hear back from her.
 

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Um just grab your set of balls one day and call her? Keep it short well humored and most of all build up some fast rapport. Always best to cut if off when they're laughing real good/after some light teasing or you're running out of **** to say lol.

I always say things like "What's up sweetie?" "hun how have you been?" yadda yadda, get them talking about themselves, usually after 10 minutes you have to cut em off and be like "Yeah I've got to go do this or that, I'm probably not going to call you again." Then say "Just kidding. Maybe." :)
 

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Why do people always overanayze stuff? " oh she didn't respond in 24 hours. Should I next her?" Be a man
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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