I need your help and advice..dont knowhow to handle dis

[daakins]

i want to say the articles here are helpful in helping me to have a pattern which i follow to helping me get girls and getting laid.i have only asked a girl out once in my whole life and that happened to be my first g/f. she said yes and we dated but didnt have sex because i was a teenager at that time and in the university and all i was always thinking off were my books. before i asked her out,i had no knowledge about being the alpha male, ****y and funny guy and stuffs like that.i was just a novice. after breaking up with her cus she wanted to be exclusive;get engaged with me but i wasnt ready for that. from then i started to learn about getting girls and getting laid.i will say i have gotten laid multiple times with hot and beautiful chicks without asking them out.they just get attracted due to what i have learnt from pickup artists. now there is this babe i want to get steady with.she is attracted to me because she calls me,chat with me on bbm messenger ,always initiate chat,she touches me,she laugh at my jokes,we attend the same church,she is in the choir,and she happens to be a younger sister of my best friend.i always do the push and pulling things,fractionation,being elusive to the extent dat i feel am going extreme and my friend tells me she likes me.now i asked her out but she never said yes or no.she said its not the amount of love that we have from the beginning but the amount of love we are ready to build to the end. that took me aback.now she is asking me for a favour which i cud do but am really weary of the favour trick.now our last chat on bbm included me telling her that i care about her and she was always on my mind.meanwhile she had earlier texted me few weeks back that she also cared about me. now i told her that i care about her,i asked her that are we gonna be calling,dating,and caring for each other from a distance? (because personally i wanted to assume that we were dating).her reply was she has not told me that yet,and that i should not yet put that on the table yet. my question is should i continue to be acting like i dont care,elusive,reduce my chatting with her and cut the interaction short until she comes dancing closer to my circle,or i should do otherwise.and am a handsome guy also

daakins from Africa

 

[daakins]

is there nobody dat can advice a fellow brother in the game??

 

[RangerMIke]

You asked for a relationship and she said no. Truth is she is right, she is the one that has to bring this up not you.

Just keep going out with her and dating her, build her attraction. The worst thing you can do with a women you are attempting to attract into a relationship is to start acting like the "relationship guy" before she is ready.

Advice... don't bring it up again until she does, then you sit down with her and negociate the 'terms' of your 'relationship'.

At some point if you want something exclusive and she is not interested, then you walk away. If she reaches out to you, then you make a date and it starts all over again, but again she is the one that has to bring up exclusivity. I can't tell from you message if you are at this point yet, but eventually you will have to walk away if she is not giving you what you want and go find someone that will, or it will drive yourself nuts and off center.