"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I need to Cut. What foods to get at grocery store?

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I need to make a 6 meal plan for myself. I am going to the grocery store in a little while. What should I get? Also, what would be some good combinations for my 6 meals? Thanks.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Post your stats. Height, weight, approximate BF%, and goals.

I would try to plan many more than just 6 meals. One of the biggest causes of failure in dieting is a lack of variety.
 

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I'm 5'11, 167 and nowhere near being fat. I just want to loose my gut and love handles.
 

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I try to follow a diet of 30% fat, 30% carbs, and 40% protein. Most of that fat should come from mono/poly unsaturated fat such as fat from nuts, fish, avacado, and a few cooking or supplimental oils. You might want to suppliment with a tablespoon of flaxseed oil, which you can find at GNC, etc. Try to eat as few saturated fats and especially transfats as possible (anything hydrogenized such as margerin, non natural peanut butter, and crisco is going to contain transfat). Carbs should come from whole grain bread (not just "wheat bread"), brown rice, pasta, lots of veggies, and one or two pieces of fruit every day. Fiber, which contains no caleries, is very important - you should have about 35g of fiber a day. Don't eat carbs later than a few hours before bed. Protein should come from chicken, turkey, eggs, fish, and only the leanest beef and pork you can find. Solid animal fat is saturated fat, which you don't want. At your size I'd shoot for roughly 2000 caleries a day. There are 4 caleries in a gram of protein and carbohydrate (other than fiber which has 0), and 9 caleries in a gram of fat. Suppliment with multivitamins every day and take it with food. Try to drink 2/3 gallon or more of water every day. Cheat once a week, it prevents binging.

Do medium-high intensity cardio 3 or 4 days a week (first thing in the morning before eating ANY food is best), and weightlift 3 days a week to maintain muscle. Immediately following weightlifting, I recommend taking 400 caleries of dextrose and/or maltodextrine - they're very sweet carbs that you can find at GNC in powder form. This is in addition to your regular diet and will help with muscle maintenance and reduce soreness.
 

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The Exercise:

So I'm going to basically run (in the mornings on empty stomach) every other day and then lift weights in between.

Food:

Yeah like today I ate barely nothing, but it's going to catch up with my tomorrow. What I ate:

Meal 1 - 2 slices of 100% Whole Wheat (natural whole grain)

Meal 2 - Met-Rx Protein Bar (32g protein 5g net carbs really tastey. I got like a choc fudge flavored one) and I also had a handful of strawberries.

Meal 3 - Grilled Salmon, with rice and green beans

Meal 4 - orange, cucumber dipped in hummus

my day started around 12 so thats why i only have 4 meals...

So basically... I eat the heavy carbs (oatmeal, whole wheat bread) in the morning. My main proteins are chicken, canned tuna and egg whites (white) and eating a lot of spinach salads. I think I'm going to try to completely cut dairy from my diet. I grew up drinking milk, I had A LOT (skim though) so I think I've drank enough milk for my lifetime. lol.

Do you know of a website that counts carbs and makes this all real easy to track?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I use a proprietary program to track my foods and calories but I'm pretty sure fitday.com works the same way. I can't vouch for the site though.
 
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