"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I need to change my texting mentality, help please?

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I need to change my texting mentality and realize a way to make texting a girl fun, and not just a means to an end, which is getting laid. And I need to know rules and guidelines on how to get a strange girl invested through going out with me through texting. And I need to just enjoy the process and not care if a girl doesn't reply. But really, who wants to text 20 girls, and not bang any of them? That's the problem I'm having.
Now, if I appear needy or desperate, it's not because "I need a girl", It's more cause I want more girls in my life to bang, to increase my **** count so to speak. lol So, my issues are going to be different than most men, because all I want to do is have sex with a lot of women. Don't need emotinal stuff or a girlfriend.
So, if a girl doesn't respond back to a statement text, should I just not reply back anymore to make her text me and invest, or send another statement or question text to stimulate interest?
And what about for girls that are "back up girls", ones that I want to take time, maybe a week or two to ask on a date, because I have that area covered by more girls with higher interests levels?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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As RSD states, always be entertaining yourself. Don't worry about how it comes across to the woman, all your communications should have the primary purpose of entertainment. Specifically, entertainment for you.
 

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Deicide said:
I need to change my texting mentality and realize a way to make texting a girl fun, and not just a means to an end, which is getting laid. And I need to know rules and guidelines on how to get a strange girl invested through going out with me through texting. And I need to just enjoy the process and not care if a girl doesn't reply. But really, who wants to text 20 girls, and not bang any of them? That's the problem I'm having.
Now, if I appear needy or desperate, it's not because "I need a girl", It's more cause I want more girls in my life to bang, to increase my **** count so to speak. lol So, my issues are going to be different than most men, because all I want to do is have sex with a lot of women. Don't need emotinal stuff or a girlfriend.
So, if a girl doesn't respond back to a statement text, should I just not reply back anymore to make her text me and invest, or send another statement or question text to stimulate interest?
And what about for girls that are "back up girls", ones that I want to take time, maybe a week or two to ask on a date, because I have that area covered by more girls with higher interests levels?

RULES?! fvck living by rules. Be fun and just have an open mind. Talk about whatever, its not that difficult. But obviously dont text 24/7 because your a busy DJ remember ;). (simply you have no time to reply!) Eh also texting gets kind of annoying, try to just set up a date via text. In person is a lot better IMO atleast.
 

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Deicide said:
So, if a girl doesn't respond back to a statement text, should I just not reply back anymore to make her text me and invest, or send another statement or question text to stimulate interest?
depends on the statement. if you asked her out and she didn't reply, go nc for a little and then try to reopen her at a different time

if it was a worthless text that didn't warrant a response, don't sweat it

and good luck waiting on girls to text you first in this day and age. even girls that are really into me never text first

your texts should, for the most part

-be short
-be funny, interesting, or involve asking her out
-reveal some of who you are, but not enough that she's comfortable just texting you and not meeting up. leave some of your texts open ended/mysterious to get her interested in meeting you in person. if you're sending her your life story via text what is her motivation for seeing you in person?
 

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There is so many different opinions on texting .. I'm becoming confused.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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I never heard of the old school Don Juans worrying about texting. They only talked to a girl on the phone to set up dates. I don't see why guys are into texting so much anyways. You cant keep your MYSTERY texting a chick all day n night.
 

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Krueg said:
I never heard of the old school Don Juans worrying about texting. They only talked to a girl on the phone to set up dates. I don't see why guys are into texting so much anyways. You cant keep your MYSTERY texting a chick all day n night.
Texting is a relatively new issue. I don't text girls all the time by any means, sometimes every couple days or once a week if they show no interest. While sometimes, i have girls that text me every day, and I reply back to them. Doesn't seem to hurt to reply and keep a conversation if they want to talk to you.
 

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Deicide said:
Texting is a relatively new issue. I don't text girls all the time by any means, sometimes every couple days or once a week if they show no interest. While sometimes, i have girls that text me every day, and I reply back to them. Doesn't seem to hurt to reply and keep a conversation if they want to talk to you.
Texting did only recently become big due to smartphones and such. So do you think texting a girl 24/7 for a week straight is a terrible idea? For your mystery that is
 

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Texting with moderation is okay. But, what do women do? They talk! And who do they talk with? Their FRIENDS. Dont let talking or in this case texting too much lead to the friend-zone. Keep your MYSTERY and embrace their weak spot - ACTION!
 

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meh, I think the whole "forget about texting" went out in about 2006. Cell phones suck for talking. Delay, tinny voice, etc.

People are still parroting the sh*t that was written by "gurus" a decade ago.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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JohnChops said:
Texting did only recently become big due to smartphones and such. So do you think texting a girl 24/7 for a week straight is a terrible idea? For your mystery that is
I'm going on dates with those women that text me on a regular basis as soon as possible though. Yes, I'd rather have just texted a couple days before a date, but things happen when you get girls with high interest levels, who may be kind of desperate also, that you may have to wait a few days to go on the date.
 

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Deicide said:
I'm going on dates with those women that text me on a regular basis as soon as possible though. Yes, I'd rather have just texted a couple days before a date, but things happen when you get girls with high interest levels, who may be kind of desperate also, that you may have to wait a few days to go on the date.

True true, texting her first and a lot is bad. Just doing it to set up the date or a couple of days before seems decent. :rockon: What im trying to get at is texting and creating a "deep" conversation is a no no . Kinda fvcks you up in the long run
 
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