"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I need quick advice.

Kyo

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So I have a close friend (considered a member of my family, long story). She's a HB8. And I've been working on escaping the friend zone skill. She texts me today (I've been ignoring her) saying she misses her best friend and I say I'd miss him too.

So she says "When are you available for chillage?"
I said let me look at my calendar, Saturday's my mom's birthday, I'm free then.

She replies I'm going to Penn. (with her boyfriend whose an AFCtomax), when else are you free?

Should I see her today? Should I say maybe next week? Or should I ignore it?
Idk. Note, this isn't a person who I can write off, my mom gave her keys to the house.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Warrior74

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she has a boyfriend. move on. stop lingering and worrying over this girl. the fact that you are posting about reeks of some oneitis going down in your subconcious mind. Tell her your busy. And be busy meeting other women. You are jumping to see her while she is just trying to fit you into her schedule.

tell her to just call you when she's around your side of town, no big deal, you'll hang when you can.

Ever heard of playing it cool? Stop investing so much in a girl who has a man. Go meet 10 other women this week. Now get to it.


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You're right, she is trying to fit me in her schedule and it's not cool. I've already started meeting women and I got a number already and will call in a 4 days . But thanks for the advice, I didn't see it that way!
Word! Check this out that was right at the top of the page....


http://www.sosuave.com/rondavid/succeed28.htm?forum
 
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Kyo

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You're right, she is trying to fit me in her schedule and it's not cool. I've already started meeting women and I got a number already and will call in a 4 days :) . But thanks for the advice, I didn't see it that way!
 
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