I need guidance..

[KarmaSutra]

So what ways do I think like a boy?

This:

thoe I still smoke weed and cigarettes sometimes

I'm a cigar connaisseur so I won't deluge you with a speech about the ills of tobacco. However, weed will get arrested and tarnish your record and then sully your future. Is it worth it? With cigars I've learned patience and appreciation for myself and my time. What lessons has weed taught you? The value of Doritos?

You also harbor quite a bit of regret which is detrimental to your mental aptitude. Get shut of it, shut it out. Today is the first day of the rest of your life.

Read this:

A starting point.

Then this:

A reckoning.

Finally:

Interceptors call to arms.

These threads I suggest only because they get to the absolute heart of the issues they're dealing with. No runaround bullsh!t or cunning attempts at trickery. This is straight talk. Pure maturity on your screen. Tattoo them in your mind and in your heart.

Once you've digested these threads come back and we'll move forward another step.

 

[Evolution]

These are very realistic goals, and I do believe you can attain them. But its gonna take time. Since you make some mistakes, you dug yourself up a hole. Now your gonna have to slowly dig yourself out of it.

I want to find a job. Not just any crap job like temp agencies or fast food like i've been doing. I want a job I can wake up, and feel proud to go to everyday.

Do you have any job experience? If not its gonna be tough. You do know how to fill out the applications? Do you have the right clothes for the interviews?
What are you going to say when the employer asks you "What time are you avaliable?"

Are you gonna give an half assed answer or are you gonna say "I'm avaliable 6pm to 8pm from mondays to thursdays total 20 hours but I'm flexible."

I want to quit smoking weed, and being realistic cut BACK on the cigarettes.

Stop smoking weed and cigarettes. I know a couple friends who do that stuff, but guess what? They fail the drug tests so they can't work.

I want to get a new wardrobe.

Stop smoking and use that money to buy some new clothes.

I want to atleast begin driving school.

Thats easy, just head down to your local DMV and start there. But you gotta start saving up for a car.

I want to start working out.

Just going to the gym.

I want to meet a girl.. Unlike most ppl on this forum my problem isn't finding a girl its finding a girl that I LIKE as much as she likes me.

Its tough trying to find a girl in your situation. You have to start changing your lifestyle now. Don't wait, the time is ticking. Your already behind a lot of people who are your age.

There are plenty of resources out there. There are mentors (which are really helpful, they can help you plan out your future). There are rehab centers that will help you get off the drugs.
I think being realistic these are some obtainable goals.[/QUOTE]