This is a bit long but hopefully someone here will read it and help me out a bit.
So here's the story. I'm 21 she's 24. She's Christian, I'm Chrisitan. I met this girl randomly online that lives right in my neighborhood. She was practically stalking me for a week apparently. We were talking one night and we hit it off pretty good but she was had to head out to the meijers down the street. Now i'm one to just go do random crazy things, so I said, " Hey, i'll just be chillin' over on the footons eating and reading, so go find me." She didn't believe me and playfully told me to stop playing games. I told her I serious and wasn't playing.
Once I said that, she hooked me up with her number and said to call her when i was there. Lo and behold she actually showed up. Found me, and we basically shopped for what she needed. I happened to come across some flowers, so I asked her to buy them for her from me. Surprisingly she did.
We left meijers and went on back to her apartment complex. Once there we headed off to the club house/gym and worked out a bit and talked. She basically said she didn't know how I pulled off such a random spontaneous date that went so well.
Everything is going well, lots of kino and good conversations. We head back to her apartment and hang out while. She jumps in bed and calls me on over. She shows me some of her graphic design work, we crank on some music and next thing I know we are very very close. Holding hands basically right on top of each other. Eye contact like no other the whole night. Now, usually at this point the making out starts happening. But no, she basically was kissing my hand, chest etc. But was hesitating or rather pulling back when i go in for the kiss.
So I go with the softcore cuddling kissing and end up staying the night. I woke up when she kissed my face and had to head off to work. At this point i'm totally confused. She was kissing and totally liking me, but was keeping distance from the actually kissing. We head out the door and that's that.
I talk to her the next day for a few mins but I was in a rush. She had told me it was an amazing night and wanted to see each other more often If i wanted. I responded likewise, It was great and all.
Here's where i am stuck. I know she has a ton of guy friends and hangs out with them a lot. I am not afraid of them trying to steal her away and such so thats not a problem. What is confusing is I call her and try to set up another "date" and she's doing something. A few days later I eventually set something up where we meet at this country line dancing bar that she loves and goes to a lot. She brings a few friends and I bring my wingman.
The night went perfect. My wingman kept me in line and was able to distract some of the guy friends so I could get in a little kino and dance with her. It was about 80/20 with her. 80% time with her and the rest was checking out the bar and other girls and talking with them. The whole night she kept coming back to me when I would go walk away.
At closing time I met her one good guy friend who was going to take her home. I didn't know he was taking her home but she came out of no where and had to tell me that he was just a good friend , and to not worry about him--Which I wasn't--, and was taking her home and all that whole time she was kissing my ear. She left, so my wingman and myself stuck around a bit more and found some more ladies and had a good time till the bar closed.
My wingman and I left there and went to another bar. While there I get a call from her saying she made it back safe and for me to call her the next day. For some reason she keeps wanting me to call her. The next day I give her a call to tell her it was a fun night and such. No answer, but she called back later. Call was short and she seemed nervous? Her whole wanting me to call her is really confusing.
Now I want to set up an actual date with her. What should I do about that? This chic is either just leading me on or is too nervous to get close? I would just leave her be if she wasn't so Hot. At least an 8 outa 10.
What would you DJ masters do in this situation?? I want to get the ball back in my court. Just like when at the country bar, I had control. I need some way to get that back.
Any help would be greatly appreciated.
So here's the story. I'm 21 she's 24. She's Christian, I'm Chrisitan. I met this girl randomly online that lives right in my neighborhood. She was practically stalking me for a week apparently. We were talking one night and we hit it off pretty good but she was had to head out to the meijers down the street. Now i'm one to just go do random crazy things, so I said, " Hey, i'll just be chillin' over on the footons eating and reading, so go find me." She didn't believe me and playfully told me to stop playing games. I told her I serious and wasn't playing.
Once I said that, she hooked me up with her number and said to call her when i was there. Lo and behold she actually showed up. Found me, and we basically shopped for what she needed. I happened to come across some flowers, so I asked her to buy them for her from me. Surprisingly she did.
We left meijers and went on back to her apartment complex. Once there we headed off to the club house/gym and worked out a bit and talked. She basically said she didn't know how I pulled off such a random spontaneous date that went so well.
Everything is going well, lots of kino and good conversations. We head back to her apartment and hang out while. She jumps in bed and calls me on over. She shows me some of her graphic design work, we crank on some music and next thing I know we are very very close. Holding hands basically right on top of each other. Eye contact like no other the whole night. Now, usually at this point the making out starts happening. But no, she basically was kissing my hand, chest etc. But was hesitating or rather pulling back when i go in for the kiss.
So I go with the softcore cuddling kissing and end up staying the night. I woke up when she kissed my face and had to head off to work. At this point i'm totally confused. She was kissing and totally liking me, but was keeping distance from the actually kissing. We head out the door and that's that.
I talk to her the next day for a few mins but I was in a rush. She had told me it was an amazing night and wanted to see each other more often If i wanted. I responded likewise, It was great and all.
Here's where i am stuck. I know she has a ton of guy friends and hangs out with them a lot. I am not afraid of them trying to steal her away and such so thats not a problem. What is confusing is I call her and try to set up another "date" and she's doing something. A few days later I eventually set something up where we meet at this country line dancing bar that she loves and goes to a lot. She brings a few friends and I bring my wingman.
The night went perfect. My wingman kept me in line and was able to distract some of the guy friends so I could get in a little kino and dance with her. It was about 80/20 with her. 80% time with her and the rest was checking out the bar and other girls and talking with them. The whole night she kept coming back to me when I would go walk away.
At closing time I met her one good guy friend who was going to take her home. I didn't know he was taking her home but she came out of no where and had to tell me that he was just a good friend , and to not worry about him--Which I wasn't--, and was taking her home and all that whole time she was kissing my ear. She left, so my wingman and myself stuck around a bit more and found some more ladies and had a good time till the bar closed.
My wingman and I left there and went to another bar. While there I get a call from her saying she made it back safe and for me to call her the next day. For some reason she keeps wanting me to call her. The next day I give her a call to tell her it was a fun night and such. No answer, but she called back later. Call was short and she seemed nervous? Her whole wanting me to call her is really confusing.
Now I want to set up an actual date with her. What should I do about that? This chic is either just leading me on or is too nervous to get close? I would just leave her be if she wasn't so Hot. At least an 8 outa 10.
What would you DJ masters do in this situation?? I want to get the ball back in my court. Just like when at the country bar, I had control. I need some way to get that back.
Any help would be greatly appreciated.
