"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I think getting strong emotions from a girl who has shown you interest is a great way to build value. But its not that easy to create strong emotions from the start unless you're an expert with patterns. So another way to make a girl have strong emotions after she's shown some IOIs for you would be by being that jerk that makes her mad.
I have a lot of stories where this has worked, here's one:

When I was a freshman in college I got introduced to this HB 8. We talked for a few minutes then I got her AIM. We briefly chated the next day on AIM. That same day my little bro signed on my account and pretended to be me and called her fat and did all types of things associated with the common *******. i didnt find out about this until the next day when her friends approached me and asked me what the hell is wrong with me and that I had made her cry. However the issue was quickly resolved and that same day the girl practically threw herself at me.
What I'm getting at is that because of my brother, she was able to feel a very strong emotion (hate) towards the guy she had some interest in (me).

This is something I felt today as I again had a girl flake on me. I felt so much hate and frustration towards her. Somebody I dont even know that much and who I was somewhat interested in. But even tho I hate her, I feel my interest for her higher than before. If it wasnt for the things I've learned here I would probably be calling her more times in the last hour than what i've called her since we met.

So there you have it, if you want to make that new girl feel intense emotions for you but you don't know patterns just make her mad. Not too mad, but enough for her to go out of her way to think about you.

Some ideas:
Telling her that she has a hot friend or showing you're interested in that friend,
Flake on her
Sending her a mean txt, then apologize the next day saying somebody went thru your cell.
Flirt with someone she knows well.
Dont return her phonecalls
Making her wait an extra 30 mins for that ride you promised her.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I told a girl last week that I don't care if I ever go out with her again.

We have a date tomorrow.
 

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IMO, leave the little mind games for the women. You don't need them, and they're more likely to backfire on you.

Love and anger are two different emotions, and often exclusive of one another. Sure, you can "stir the pot" to get a reaction, but it may not be the one you're looking for. Ever have a dream that a friend did something awful to you? And then, after waking up, you find yourself still angry? Strong negative feelings are difficult to forget.

Your HB 8 probably was into you even before the AIM incident. Trust in your own worth. You don't need to trick 'em.
 

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IMO, leave the little mind games for the women. You don't need them, and they're more likely to backfire on you.

Love and anger are two different emotions, and often exclusive of one another. Sure, you can "stir the pot" to get a reaction, but it may not be the one you're looking for. Ever have a dream that a friend did something awful to you? And then, after waking up, you find yourself still angry? Strong negative feelings are difficult to forget.

Your HB 8 probably was into you even before the AIM incident. Trust in your own worth. You don't need to trick 'em.

Now, as a countermeasure to bad behavior from a girl, INDIFFERENCE works wonders.
 

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I'm saying I always see girls getting pissed off over some guy and the next day shes fking him.
We've all had girls make us mad for doing something inconsiderate of us, like flaking, making us jealous, or not calling back. And what happened? You wanted more of her. Even if your game and your pride didn't allow you to further pursue her you would attribute more value to her. And if she apologized you would gladly give her that second chance.
I think this works because it makes the girl feel very powerful emotions for you. Even if they are negative. It doesn't make sense but thats how attraction works.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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