I kida screwed up...

[NobodyCares1]

So I was texting this girl... she wanted me to add her on facebook...

well the conversation went quite well although it was very short... until the point where I told her that I'd like to dance with her again... she then said that we can but I'll have to wait untill the lent ends (because of the Easter we have almost no discos for 40 days) so I wrote to her that it's a long time... she then wrote to me that it's 40 days... and I replied "yeah... and what should I do untill then? :/" and she haven't written back to me... I realise that it was complete AFC move... the thing I want to know if I can fix it somehow or should I let her go? all this happened yesterday...

 

[LearningSlowly]

"yeah... and what should I do untill then? :/"

Sounds like you have no one else to turn to, she is the primary focus of your life. The smiley at the end makes her feel like she's responsible for making you happy. You could have tried "Oh we can dance before then. My house and some music. I remember that I'm better at it than you"

 

[NobodyCares1]

yeah... that's the point that I realised after I sent the message... I don't know what I was thinking while writing it... the thruth is that in romantic way I wasn't texting with any other girl so... anyway I'm going out tomorrow and hope to get some numbers then... although it will be harder than usually...

 

[NobodyCares1]

so I met that girl yesterday in a bar... we were both sitting alone because our friends went out smoking... but since I thought that this was already screwed I just played cool like I haven't noticed her and looked at my cellphone... then after a while she said my name so I looked at her and said hi... she then called me to sit with her... we had a little conversation but it wasn't anything great... I was kinda in a bad mood and so I didn't talk much, well not as much as I should (I really need to improve my conversation skills), anyway during the conversation when her friends have returned I said to her that she should buy me a beer and she answered like this
her: well... we are girls you should buy us a drink (they have already bouhgt a beer and were drinking it)
me: but I don't have any money (smiling, but still I think this was kinda stupid thing to say, then my friend asked me if I want anything so I said that I want a beer and gave him money)

later I asked if she's taking me with her home (I was reffering to the chat we had on facebook with this... I wrote to her there that she should've taken me home with her that night when we danced)
her: Aren't you a little demanding? (with a smile)
me: no... I just want to know if you like me
her: you're a number (it probably doesn't make any sense to you but I can't translate it any different... anyway it means something like you're funny, wacky and stuff like that... but in a little less intense way if you get me)
me: I'm a letter
she then just smiled and drank her beer...

then she said that they are going to sit somewhere else because they were just sitting at a table for four people and from what I got from their conversation some of their friedns were supposed to come... so she said that they are going to sit over there (pointed at a table) and said that I can come later again... but until then my other female friends have arrived so I went out of the bar and we went drinking... from what I know I haven't met her that night again... anyway do you have any thoughts about what to improve and stuff... and if it was good... because I kinda felt like I was acting as an AFC...

 

[LearningSlowly]

so I met that girl yesterday in a bar... we were both sitting alone because our friends went out smoking... but since I thought that this was already screwed I just played cool like I haven't noticed her and looked at my cellphone...

This set the tone for the rest of the interaction. When you see someone you know, they see you too, and they know you saw them. MAKE THE FIRST MOVE ALWAYS.

This is along the same vein as cold approaching. Being able to get up immediately on noticing them, go over and give them a hug, that shows a lot of confidence.

Alternately, when she called you over, you needed to make it a big surprise. Hug her, say its been too long since you hung out, high energy, good vibes. That's what makes people want to be around you.