"Blank Mind on Dates? She's Dropping Hints You Keep Missing"

The plates get cleared and the silence lands like a brick. You can feel her waiting. Your brain offers up your commute, your job, the weather — topics that have ended more second dates than bad breath.

Here's what most guys never learn: women hand out free conversational material all night long. Tiny clues about what they actually want to discuss. Catch them and you never run out of things to say — because she's telling you what to say next.

Rule 4 of the "22 Rules" trains your ear to catch every single one.

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I just told off a HB9 on the phone--read

white_hype

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heres the deal:
been to a few parties and a first date with this hb9 i met at a party a while ago. Date went great on my end, as in i was really funny (she said stop making me laugh so much, and she was laughing a lot) and used some kino (dinner date so kinda hard) and split bill with her. However i found her really boring (i still let her do about 60% of the talking but she was just so dam plain/ordinary that i had to change the conversation every 10 mins to something I FOUND interesting, i viewed the date as MY chance to have fun and if she has fun too, then great).

Few weeks later (i was very busy/going after 2 other girls) i asked her out for sunday, she readily agrees. Come Sunday i am exhausted (didnt go to bed till 6am saturday night cause i was busy with a girl and did a lot of stuff during the day) so we (she was tired too) rescheduled for monday. Come monday I call her and let it ring only 4 times before i hung up (too tired to go out and didnt want to talk to her... lol) but she in turn didnt call me back till wednesday, today).

phone convo went like this, she acted like nothing was wrong then i asked what happened on monday? she said she meant to call me but went to wallmart and to eat with her friends all day (WTF?!?!) then i chime in:
"o really? well i thought that was really rude and shows you dont really care about me or my time and i had to break plans with my friends" she thought i was joking then said i was serious and she kept apologizing... i acted pretty cold for the next 2 mins... i said "you need to make it up to me big time" and she said "oh please" but with a tone that she thought i was still joking or some sh1t then i just said "well i have to go, and shes like i'll see you this weekend? and i give a sarcastic yea, bye" and hang up

stupid b1tch i will never see her again, guys dont let ANY girl walk on you like this (i feel like i should have just hung up after i said the "i thought i was rude..." line). I am pissed right now

what do you guys think i should have done? should do?

i am kinda glad this happened b/c the only reason i was interested was b/c she was so hot... she has by far the worst personality in any girl ive met but is one of the hottest ive ever gotten (i have really high standards)

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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Why'd you even call her again if the first date was utterly boring and you're busy with two other women? :confused:

BTW, no point in getting angry...just cut her loose if you're having a hard time.
 

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Originally posted by squirrels
Why'd you even call her again if the first date was utterly boring and you're busy with two other women? :confused:

BTW, no point in getting angry...just cut her loose if you're having a hard time.
because she is ridiculously hot and i am shallow like that (sad but true sine im not looking to really date anyone)... but the date wasnt painfully boring (she was still pretty boring) its just that i am pissed right now
 

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It is more satisfying to tell someone off to their face. But try to keep real cool doing it. If you look steamed, they won. If you seem unmoved, they might even cry.

I had the pleasure of picking up a super-hottie on the street once (never happened again so far) and at some point made some slight faux-pas out of nervousness which she responded to by turning on her heel to leave, just like that. But then she turned back to me like she was giving me a second chance and asked some pointless question.

If I was a supllicator, I would've let her back in. But, any woman who rejects me primae faciea is dirt in my book (AFC, I know, what can you do, though?). So I just looked in her eyes, very cooly, and kind of laughed. Then I told her to go sit down over there and pointed, like she was a bad little girl. She was shocked. I never saw a face fall so fast. And then I waited for her to walk away like I'd told her to do. And then I left.

In retrospect, it was cruel. But the power I had over her at that moment was amazing. It's all in the eye contact. That's why you should dump them face to face.

Note: This treatment is ONLY for women who act like they are god's gift to men and diss you first. If they do that, it's time to show them who's the man.
 

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I give you a High five for that man. She dissed you and you set some limits and spoke your mind.

You didnt care how hot she was and most AFC's are too afraid to speak their minds because they are afraid of "losing a chance with a HB"

She will respect you for this.

Most people will say "A DJ will always keep cool"

There is a difference between acting "cool and uncaring" and letting someone diss you and walk all over you and think its "OK"
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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thanks for your post

man i would have loved to have told her off to her face then just walk away...

i will 100% see her at a party this weekend what do you think i should do there?
i plan on doing NOTHING and just going up to other girls (hopefully right in front of her)

she will 95% come up to me and try to talk to me (most likely like nothing happened)... what should i do from there? i plan on getting WASTED this friday(not b/c of this) b/c this is a huge a$$ party so if i see her and she so much as comes close to being rude to me i will GO OFF on her (i will easily make her cry)
 

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The worse thing you can do to her is ignore her and hit on other girls.

You've already told her off, anymore will be overkill. If she doesnt sincerely apologize, NEXT. and if she tries to apologize, fvck with her and say "apology accepted" then walk away
 

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Originally posted by ManOMan
The worse thing you can do to her is ignore her and hit on other girls.

You've already told her off, anymore will be overkill. If she doesnt sincerely apologize, NEXT. and if she tries to apologize, fvck with her and say "apology accepted" then walk away
haah thats pretty good

i think ill wait for her to come up to me and go from there (meanwhile trying to get hb's)
if shes rude, be sure to check back here cause i will make her cry
her only chance is a REALLY sincere apology but i doubt that will happen

thanks though
 
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Damn, she chose Wal-Mart over being with you!! I see why you are so angry. Was there a clearance sale? If there was a clearance sale going on then I understand her decision to be at Wal-Mart.

You are still angry at her because you are unsatisfied with your response to her disrespect - you wanted to be harsher in your words as retribution! If you explode talking to her next time you see her, you will only loook like a weak hurtful man.
 

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Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
If you explode talking to her next time you see her, you will only loook like a weak hurtful man.
then so be it

you have to understand the entire situation to truly appreciate it (i almost deserved this b/c of all the sh1t ive given her... she even said "you probably didnt even want to go out with me anyways"... stupid b1tch), but i will bring the hammer down on her if she warrants it
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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change of plans

after tlaking with a friend i have decided to be nicer to this girl (i have been pretty mean to her in the past) and start messing around with her... soon after i will tell her off and make her feel like complete sh1t

(you have to know the entirity of the situation)
 

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why do you want to make her feel like sh1t? or cry?

Look at it this way, if you had a child that did something wrong, you show disapproval of the act, maybe punish the child and let it pass, you dont continually hold a grudge with the child do you?

same thing. You have already chastized this girl for her behavior. The following "punishment" should be to act aloof with her, not keep yelling at her for the same thing
 
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