"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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i just showed a friend this site

DJ_Mind_Tricks

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I just showed a close friend this site because i felt sorry for him, hes been through countless crash and burns with women this year.

Im starting to have regrets though, for some reason i am now worried about my rep as a DJ..

BAH,
i never turned into a DJ because of this site, its what's inside that counts right? why should i care? I dont rely on this site for EVERYTHING.

though, i still feel regrets, i feel like i betrayed someone (whoever that is) by divulging this site to a helpless AFC

Opinions?

was it the right thing to do? or did i just cause the extiction of the don juan race?

EDIT: ermm ok i was a little melodramatic, it is obvious im not fully secure with myself but i still want ur opinions about showing someone this site out of sympathy
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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JSH

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It does not matter, thats the aim of this, to help as many people as possible. I have showed a friend this site or rather sent him a link to Pook's Be A MAN post, he got quite offended, but i explained to him. He decided he was too busy to read it so.

The only reason to worry about it is if he turns lame and starts telling all the girls that you are using strange pickup techniques off a website on them. But you can probably brush this off if a) you are good enough with women b) dont care. The most effective way to do it is just like i dont care, whatever, everything i do is above board, how many girls do you GET (dont say DJ - cos to some that will imply playing).

However, as is often the case you probably are not that advanced into the mindset and the success. This is often because as newbies we want someone to share it with us and keep us motivated, part of the idea of this board.

Anyway dont worry <---- should be your attitude to life
 

Jerky Boi

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I wouldn't worry about it. If he does end up telling a few girls, just deny it. More than likely he wont though.
 

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A lot of AFC's reject this site anyways. They think "I don't need a website to tell me how to get girls, thats for losers" When in fact they're the loser who can't get girls period.

I have a friend who's a HUGE afc, and my friend that showed me this showed him it and he just couldn't accept it. This was over a year ago and he's still a huge AFC, and he seems to ignore this fact because he has a pity girlfriend.

Its sad really, but you can't change people, you can only show them the door and hope they go through it.
 

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Trying to help a friend is anything but a bad thing. Keep in mind he will remember that you tried to help him with a major thing. If he tells people about you and this site, just bring up something even more embaressing for him. Be like oh excuse me? Who's the one who tripped down the stairs earlier? Something like that will quickly turn the conversation on another subject.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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That is why i would never tell anyone in real life about this site.
 

DJUofS

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Originally posted by splinterkb
Trying to help a friend is anything but a bad thing. Keep in mind he will remember that you tried to help him with a major thing. If he tells people about you and this site, just bring up something even more embaressing for him. Be like oh excuse me? Who's the one who tripped down the stairs earlier? Something like that will quickly turn the conversation on another subject.
That will probably show insecurity. Don't try turning it around on him, laugh with him and come across with an "i don't care" attitude. Chances are most people won't believe him... if he does tell people.
 

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yep

yeah i just talked to the guy again recently, seems he refuses to accept anything he reads on the site. He says he still feels like a loser and is looking for a serious LTR, the guy doesnt seem to wanna have fun.. Hes never even had a girlfriend. If u ask me, that is total AFC mindset right there.

guess the dude just doesnt wanna enjoy life. what kind of self respecting teenager would want to settle down with some broad he is probably just infatuated with? I guess he'll just have to go crawl in a hole somewhere and wallow in his "Misery" as he calls it.

Lol this might sound cruel, but im gonna plan an outing w/ him and flaunt all my women in his face. Ill try to hook him up w/ a chick. I gotta help him somehow, ive known the dude for years.

thanks for the prophetic posts guys,
 

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I generally try to shove the philosophy and ideas down unhappy people's gullets, but if that doesn't work then I guess they'll have to grow up and learn for themselves someday
 

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If you really wanna help this guy then you should drag him off his ass and into REALITY and SHOW his how to do it right. Teach him with first hand experiance. Go SHOW him how to pick up chicks. If you SHOW him right before his eyes, he cannot deny that this shyt works.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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