"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I just need to get Piss3d off

scottfall

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Around the age of 8 or 9 I was a really pissed off little kid. My mom would get mad at me for being such a brat without adressing the actual problem. Eventually I learned to just internilize any negative emotions and started thinking I was the one with the problem. I still have this attitude today. Its nobodys.. seriously.. nobodys fault for the problems in their lives and its up to me to make sure I keep my happy face on and work towards fixing other peoples problems.

Its going to sound cheesy but I really connect with Batman in this aspect. Bruce Wayne is the happy face he puts on for the public and Batman is the hardass he really is.

I know ive been handed alot of things in my life, and im appreciative of them. But I need to start dealing with **** so I can get past it, I just dont know how.

Any help would be appreciated. Im sure there are posters here who have been at this point in their life and got through it. I feel like this is a major thing tying me back to my AFC ways.

Thanks guys!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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MooseGod

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I think everybody can relate to the Batman duality theme...That's why I always thought Indiana Jones was so cool. Quiet, nerdy college professor turns into a whip-wielding badass the second he hits foreign soil. It's this kind of character development that makes him seem like a real person, not just a kill-em-all Rambo kinda guy. It's one thing to be a badass, it's another thing to be a badass and hold down a decent job.

But other people's problems are NOT your own. You've got your own sh!t to worry about, despite how much other people may ***** and whine about their lives. I run into this all the time, and probably seem kind of emotionless because I don't bring my personal problems to work/school like many others seem to do. In these days of Oprah and Dr. Phil everybody seems to feel the need to whine, and a real man sucks it up and gets the job done regardless of what else is going on.

You might be on to something with the "I need to get pissed off" mindset. Someone once told me "Depression is anger without the enthusiasm."
 

Huffman

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MooseGod said:
"Depression is anger without the enthusiasm."
I like that quote. Anger has helped me a lot to get myself going again when I was depressed in the past.
On a side note, this is also why people listen to music like extreme metal. It is the embodiment of anger.
 

Phyzzle

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I can say one thing that might help: start pretending to be angry.

Seriously, once you do that enough, you can act angry without trying . . . and acting angry without trying is the same as being angry!!

Now, don't go yelling like most idiots. Work on your sneer.
 
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