I have it, but I don't, help please.

[Yoko Kurama]

Hey, whats up, I have been visiting this forum for about a week.

Anyway, I was reading things that help with attracting women. I was wondering which part I am doing wrong, let me give specifics.

Physical-I weigh 162 pounds, 6' 1. I run cross-country, I am muscular. I have a fairly good complexion. I can run four consecutive miles all under 5:40. ^_^

Mentality- I am pretty sure this is where I am screwing up. I read on here to consider myself the prize and not prize the woman. I try to do that, I am having trouble with it though. I honestly think this is the most pressing issue for me. I know it is not physical.

It is just my mindset I think, can someone specifically help me?

 

[War Against Betaism]

Game is basically 95% mindset. Physical appearance is overrated because women pay their attention to the cute and sexy guys first, but I know a lot of guys that get attention from women who handle the situation very badly. This one guy I know has all the physical tools; tall (6'2), handsome, very athletic because he's a cross country runner, but is very bad with women and is still a virgin. A woman is not going to decide to fvck a guy at the sight of their cuteness or sexiness, unless they're real wh0res. A guy that isn't cute or sexy is going to have to compensate it with their game (or money), but a guy that isn't physically attractive but has a lot of game is going to get more women than a guy that is attractive with no game.

Anyways, you just can't expect to become good with women overnight. Do you expect to become super buff after just one workout session? There are mental steps you're going to have to take and a lot of growing pains. I remember starting off, I thought I could find the answer just by reading more books, but it was actually going out and applying these methods did I finally learn anything about increasing your skills at attracting women. There is one way that you could accentuate your skills with women in a short time. The method? Just keep on approaching women endlessly, though you probably won't do it. I didn't, and I bet most people didn't either. You're going to encounter some obstacles, and this is normal. It's going to take a while, but if it was going to be this easy, then you would probably be seeing a lot more success stories than questions on this site. Even guys that are good with women still run into obstacles. Just keep doing what you are doing and if you encounter obstacles, don't feel ashamed of your mistakes; feel proud you're making progress.

 

[S.Y.L]

6ft 1 and 162, you sound skinny as ****. Lift some weights and go to like 180. You will gain a ton of confidance that way as well.

 

[smoothtalker72]

syl all that extra body weight isnt good for cross country.

 

[Yoko Kurama]

180 would be to large, actually, I am not as skinny as ****. A lot of people on the team are much stronger than most footballs players merely because of out muscle endurance.

Anyway...

Thanks for the guidance Beta

 

[Void]

You already have everything you need dude. I want you to take a look at your high school and spot the guys who get the most action with girls. A small portion of them are actually what one would consider "good looking guys." Those are the athletes etc. Then the majority of them are just like you ranging from short to tall, bad looking to mediocre looking. It really doesn't matter what you look like as long as you believe in yourself and act truthfully. What do I mean by act truthfully? This is something I didn't understand until recently. Acting truthfully is not "be yourself." "Be yourself" is a bullsh1t line your friends who are girls will tell you or your mom. Acting truthfully is comprised of a whole lot of things, but at the same time, is not. This is hard to summarize so I'll need the help of Dr. Seuss on this one.

"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind."

So what this means is to be who you are, but when you're being who you are you are not the insecure, unhappy version of your self. You're comfortable with who you are and can accomplish anything.

Hope this helps.