"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Hi I was recently conversing with a chick when I got the line, "I have a bf." Pissed me off alot since it messed up my game at that point.

What do you guys do from there?

And my question is for the experienced, not the "bible dorks."
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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You should search this one out...

Short answer : Don't let it phase you... assume that they are single, untill they say otherwise.
 

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Depends on how your approach was. I've been hit with that line too. It kinda sucks but at the same time, at least I found out right then and there instead of it being a drawn out process and using my resources to get this girl and then hear the line. Went down that road too. Also did the "take the girl from the boyfriend" thing too. Best option is to just find another girl to talk to. On the real, girls with boyfriends have too much baggage and can't give you there time long term anyway. Kick it with a girl that is single. Better to start at ground zero and work your way up. My opinion, my experience.
 

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Her: I have a boyfriend.
Me: If he's a cool guy I'd like to meet him.
Her: (Confused) Uhh he's not here with me.
Me: Well a simple conversation doesn't hurt.
Her: I guess you're right.

If he is there, play it cool. Chat with them for a few and say nice to meet you both and leave.

If she's out with her girlfriends, and you play it smooth infront of them. Chances are one of her single friends will approach a few minutes later. Usually with something like "So you seem like a pretty cool guy" or some generic line.

A) You'll isolate with her. By this time your and/or her friends should know whats going on. No LMR ****blocks.

B) She'll invite you back with her girls, but now you're commanding the attention.

C) She'll ask if you want to leave this place for drinks, a walk, whatever. Hope you have rubbers.
 

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whatever you do dont grab her thigh in front of the bf and get him in trouble for doing nothing when he doesnt even notice :)


yeah i was that boyfriend before... she thought i didnt have the balls to say or do anything.. but really i just didnt notice :\
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Yeah sry i should've searched this one--which I just did.

Probably what I would use next time is...

"So when's the wedding date?"


And im gonna game her friends now. :D
 

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Look into boyfriend destroyers thats the only thing i know that i've used to overcome that obstacle.
 

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Im sorry i have a boyfriend.

Fair doos. Heres my number, give me a call if that changes.

*Done*
 

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Originally posted by blueangel83
Boyfriend or no boyfriend, that means she wants nothing to do with you, sorry.
Not necessarily - she may be s***-testing you to see what you're made of.

HB: "I have a BF"

Me: "Not a problem, I'm not the jealous type"
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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i usually say "me too," with my favorite follow up at the time depending on the girl

"me too, he doesnt know i'm fooling around with girls on the side"

"me too, but i cheat on him all the time so it's cool" (i read something like this on hear a long time ago and liked it a lot)

etc.

say whatever you want, doesn't matter if she has one or not. if you have a smooth and witty answer you'll get either:

a) she has a boyfriend - you have a new female friend, who has female friends

b) she doesn't have a boyfriend - ;)
 

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Dude I've gotten hit with that line as well. These are a couple tried and true lines that I say back, and have worked pretty well...

1)
Her: I have a boyfriend.
Me: So when's the wedding?
Her: Um.......
Me: Can't be that serious, then...you should buy me a drink!

2)
Her: I have a boyfriend.
Me: WHOA...slow down, babe...I just met you...you should buy me a drink!

3) (If she gets *****y about it)
Her: I have a boyfriend.
Me: Really? So you go out to a club dressed in your tightest jeans and most revealing shirt (or whatever slutty thing she is wearing), just for fun? What would your boyfriend think?!
 

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Originally posted by Social_disturbance
And my question is for the experienced...
No offense, but a question this repetitive (in other words, something that has been asked by at least 100 other people at least as many times) shouldn't be asked again.

You're far better off doing a search and trying to find your own answer (and believe me, there are TONS of answers to this exact same question located on this forum and in articles on the website).

Thanks.

Here's just one quick link to a thread with over 18,000 views and 92 replies.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=18373

Here's another 140+ results to go through. The rest of the searching is up to you.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/search...d=480775&sortby=lastpost&sortorder=descending
 
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