I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I guess your the type of social moron that talks on their cellphone during movies cuz he doesn't give a sh*t about other people. Well guess what? Your not f*cking special, there's a million other places where you can make "friends." Judging from your post your a sore insecure loser, who likes to pretend to lift cuz it LOOKS cool. If you don't wanna hear other people's music then bring your own, o wait my bad you like to talk on your CELLPHONE. Maybe if you were lifting you can tell other ppl to turn their sh*tty music down. Who the f*ck brings their cellphones down to the lift area anyways... your the only moron I know who would bring their cell phones while their lifting.mrRuckus said:Yeah dude because swearing left and right and threatening to shove a phone down someone's throat is the opposite of "socially retarded."
I'll socialize at the gym if I want to, ok? You don't know why I come to the gym. Maybe I don't have many other places or time to make any friends. I don't particularly want to hear your ****ty music blaring from your cheap headphones at hearing damaging levels (assumption that is usually true for most guys i see wearing headphones while they lift) but I just tune it out.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You'll scare all the chicks away. :crackup:Deus ex Pianoforte said::crackup: Yeah, I'm going to start taking my shirt off, bumping into people, and calling everyone "nigga".