"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I had an interesting situation today: could I have laid this girl?

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OK I met this girl as I was walking to the eating hall today, and I 'opened' her with "Is this place closed" (I genuinely wanted to know - it was) and then she turned round and I realised she was hot.

We talked for like 15 minutes, some kino, and I know for a fact she was attracted to me...but she was leaving campus to go back to her own college in 2 hours. We said goodbye eventually and I kinda thought I should have said something....but didn't. A number would have been useless.....do you think there was any way I could have laid this girl? It annoyed me cause I was 100% sure she would have fvcked me after a few meetings or whatever.

Any similar experiences?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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pretty hard to tell man. only you were there.

u should have just asked if she wanted to hang out sometime, like no big deal, or nothin, just casual. Now you'll never know. I wouldn't fuss though, its only one chick. Get the next one.
 

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swifTy said:
I wouldn't fuss though, its only one chick. Get the next one.
Wise words indeed. Thanks for the virtual slap around the face. :D
 

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The only thing holding you back was the fear of rejection (or why wouldn't you try to push things as far as you could?). Maybe the intrigue of wanting to know how far you could take it will drive you to escalate things as far as you can next time.

Have this aim in future: always end an interaction with some form of close - get some action, get rejected, get a number, get an e-mail. Don't let things go with a "bye". Doesn't it feel a let down to have that great encounter and realize you actually wound up with nothing from it (except a short-term ego boost perhaps)? You say you are "know for a fact she was attracted to you", if that's true, you can bet she was thinking "why didn't he make a move, maybe it was because a) he wasn't attracted to me or b) he was he lacking confidence". At any rate, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

It would need tight game to f-close her in the 2-hr timeframe, but you won't progress without practice and missing a few shots!
 

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JJMcLure said:
The only thing holding you back was the fear of rejection (or why wouldn't you try to push things as far as you could?). Maybe the intrigue of wanting to know how far you could take it will drive you to escalate things as far as you can next time.

Have this aim in future: always end an interaction with some form of close - get some action, get rejected, get a number, get an e-mail. Don't let things go with a "bye". Doesn't it feel a let down to have that great encounter and realize you actually wound up with nothing from it (except a short-term ego boost perhaps)? You say you are "know for a fact she was attracted to you", if that's true, you can bet she was thinking "why didn't he make a move, maybe it was because a) he wasn't attracted to me or b) he was he lacking confidence". At any rate, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

It would need tight game to f-close her in the 2-hr timeframe, but you won't progress without practice and missing a few shots!
Yea, you're right. I'm usually fairly fearless, but in this case I didn't really know how to play it....I guess next time I'll ask her to hang out in my room or whatever...and then take it from there.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Deus ex Pianoforte said:
Why? (just curious)
Oh she was from a different state...I'll never see her again now.

It was in the back of my mind to ask her flat out if she wanted to "have some fun"....I mean there was no-one around....ah well, there's always a next time.
 
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