sunlite said:
What I have:
- Looks
- Attraction/interest from hot girls wherever I go
- Education
- Money
- a BMW
- Affraid of no one
What I am missing:
- The courage to speak to a girl for fun or you know...
I have tried to convince myself, tried to force myself, but no results. I feel hopeless in this scene, and I am willing to pay a real DJ to just walk with me and approach girls for some training.
Some tips are welcome in this topic..
"EDIT"=Please read my whole post, I know it sounds harsh in the beginning, but just read it in its entirety before dismissing it.
This has got to be in my opinion one of the most hopeless threads on this board right now.
First of all like some people mentioned, you said your afraid of no one, but you lack courage to approach a girl for FUN. Notice that you didn't even say for a date, you said for FUN. Which means you are scared of girls that you don't even have a serious feeling or attraction too. That should be the easiest person in the world to talk to.
Then secondly you said you have everything to be a DJ except the courage to talk to a girl for fun. I mean are you ****ing KIDDING ME. Thats the #1 step on becoming a DJ. The other things you stated are you just bragging about what society tells you gets women. I mean you stated BMW and Money before you said your afraid of no one. First of all your not afraid of no one as I already pointed out, and secondly you definiately don't need a BMW or Money to get women. I mean being a DJ is about achieving your goals and aspirations to where maybe you can afford a BMW and have money for yourself, its about getting those things for yourself, and still getting women to chase you despite the fact that your not buying them things or flaunting your money.
I feel bad for ripping on you so hard, but this thread seems almost like it was started just to brag about yourself in some areas when it instead made you look kinda naive.
To prove my point, judging from you list of things that are positve about you, then why OH WHY, could you possibly not be confident enough to talk to random girl for fun. I mean if you have looks, money, education, ect. then what exactly makes it so hard to talk to a random girl for fun. I mean half of this site has the troubles with confidence because at one point they were either fat, nerdy, short, stupid, poor, ugly, friendless, boring, low self worth or some combination of those. Yet many people have come to this site with some or all of those problems and still learned to look at sometimes the few positives they do have and have learned to be confident and successful with women.
So if you have all those positives you mentioned, then you need to grab your sack and go talk to some random girls, get flat out rejected, and then learn that there are 1,000,000 things worse in the world then getting rejected, and then go back with no fear and some practice and start picking up some girls. Just to prove my point, you know what is worse than being embarassingly rejected? Having and unwanted accidental pregnancy with some random slut......Now that the fear of rejection is put into perspective you need to realize there is nothing to fear and with practice and some reading from the DJ bible you will be fine if you are actually good looking like you say.
By the way to the poster who said that the DJ bible is too complicated is both extremely wrong and extremely right at the same time. The point of it is to provide some wandering AFC(like yourself, and a stage we have all been in at one point) a complete new outlook on the dating scene and life. Then after reading everything in it and taking a few routines to the feild, you will learn that in the beginning it takes a ton of thinking and analyzing, but after a while it just becomes natural. So yes after you are a true DJ, it seems so simple, and the bible seems too complicated, however its necessary to completely revamp your outlook on life in general.
