I Finally Approached the Walmart Girl

[LoneSilver]

Ok, I finally did it I approached the Walmart girl today. It was the perfect opportunity. Heres how it went.

I decided I would only buy a few items and had made my mind up that today was going to be the day regardless and having the encourgement from everyone here I proceeded to move forward.

Keep in mind guys regardless of my age this today was a BIG, BIG confidence boost I needed as this was the first cold approach ever with a lady I am sexually and physically attracted to as well as her showing interest. All the other dates, relationships I have had were introduced to me. But today I feel I am the man but still taking small steps to becoming the true DJ.

Anyway, I walked into Walmart and did a slow strut in front of the Customer Service area but it was a good ways from there and noticed she was the only one working and no customers and as I walked upright by shoulders back head held high I could see her at the corner of my eye checking me out. I went on and got the stuff I needed got into a line that was just above where she was and where I could see her.

I could sense she knew I was there and she appeared nervous as she was tapping her pin and just appearing nerves it was fun seeing this and actually relaxed me some. After I paid for my items I walked right into the Customer Service area where no customers were and as I walked in I looked up at the TV monitor to see if I was lookin' hollywood>chuckle and then looked at her as she watched me approach.

I said to her I just wanted to stop by and say hi and tell you how beautiful you are and when I said that she blushed beautifully looked down smiled real big and said well thanks and when she said that I made out like I had to go and said I just wanted you to know that (about her being beautiful) she said oh Ok and I said bye and strutted out.

First the reason I didn't ask for her number or name was I wanted to open the door of opportunity again with her to show I am still interested but remain a bit more a mystery sense she was the one who had been staring me down earlier and then stopping and I had not approached her unitl today. I didn't want to appear needy and I feel this will be the first step in developing rapport since I feel she recieved my compliment warmly and oh guys she looks so much better up close she is so hot I was surprised the fire sprinkles didn't come on.

Now the surprising part was my eye condition was the farthest thing from my mind and I think I had a smile on>chuckle. But I did get dry mouth but handled it well and I'm not sure if I appeared nervous to her or not sense she was more nerves than me so she wouldn't have noticed I guess but I did go about this in a serious mode and wished I was a bit more low keyed but I should loosen up the next time bring on the humor.

This was a big step for me today I feel so much more confident and just feeling this out today it would have been no problem getting her number or email but I love building sexual tension and I feel confident I will get her number and I will be dating this lady in the future.


So what do you DJ's think? And what do you think is going through this ladies head right now after this considering everything that has happened the past month or so?

LoneSilver

 

[Rapture]

I think it all depends on the situation she is in.... she's probably wondering "who the hell was that guy" and thinking that you were mysterious and charming at the same time. I think you made a good move by showing interest and at the same time remaining mysterious. She was expecting a "can I have your number" following the line you gave her. So basically you gave her the unexpected! Good move.

 

[ApocalypseCow2]

First of all, congratulations! You must feel like the world is full of opportunity right now, and it is. Some guys may say you should have done things differently, but I think you did fine. Regarding this comment:

This was a big step for me today I feel so much more confident and just feeling this out today it would have been no problem getting her number or email but I love building sexual tension and I feel confident I will get her number and I will be dating this lady in the future.

Be careful here. Some girls are just naturally flirtatous and friendly, and it can feel like a slap in the face when you find out they have a boyfriend. There is a girl at work who seems like she is TOTALLY into me, but she has a wedding-ring the size of a baseball. Some girls are just like that.

 

[LoneSilver]

Originally posted by ApocalypseCow2
First of all, congratulations! You must feel like the world is full of opportunity right now, and it is. Some guys may say you should have done things differently, but I think you did fine. Regarding this comment:

This was a big step for me today I feel so much more confident and just feeling this out today it would have been no problem getting her number or email but I love building sexual tension and I feel confident I will get her number and I will be dating this lady in the future.

Be careful here. Some girls are just naturally flirtatous and friendly, and it can feel like a slap in the face when you find out they have a boyfriend. There is a girl at work who seems like she is TOTALLY into me, but she has a wedding-ring the size of a baseball. Some girls are just like that.

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Thanks and good point. Boy I'd hate for this to be that way she ends up having a boyfriend but I would be OK if that is the case. This was a big step for me and I feel really good. I had felt if I didn't get this behind me I would have properly fallen into depression and really would have just given up on this area of my life for that was where I was at. The self talk just controlled me but coming here getting tips and insights really helped put things in perpective.

You know if this does end up being that she has a boyfriend or married and her carrying on like that with the strong eye contact earlier it would really be a shame and she should be ashamed of herself for being that bold of a come on but I do live in an area where women are like that and I guess anywhere for that fact.

But if so I will move on to the next sexy lady.

Thanks guys for posting your thoughts.

LoneSilver

 

[midwestguy]

At work I did the same thing with Lindsay. I already asked her out and all so I was just flirting with her a little one day and told her I think your cute and she blushed a little and said thanks and I stood there kinda shy looking at her cause she kept looking at me and smiling and I didnt know what to say.

 

[LoneSilver]

Originally posted by midwestguy
At work I did the same thing with Lindsay. I already asked her out and all so I was just flirting with her a little one day and told her I think your cute and she blushed a little and said thanks and I stood there kinda shy looking at her cause she kept looking at me and smiling and I didnt know what to say.

LOL!! Thats funny but cool I guess the blush is a sure sign of liking what she hears from the guy giving the compliment.

It's cool to read different experiences on how people got started with their love interest. As this lady is a Customer Service rep and me a customer I hope I rocked her world a little today after all this time and just letting her know I do have maleness to approach her and keep it sort of fun while remaining a mysterious sort... make her want me make her think of me while shes at home in the hot tub>chuckle but gawd what a shame it would be while the game is on she ends up married or has a boyfriend unless it's not a happy one and shes ending it but that would be a whole new set of issues to deal with I am sure and would have to proceed with caution.

But today is a good day and I own all you guys here at DJDF alot I guess I'm not a gerbil king anymore>chuckle.

LoneSilver

 

[Desdinova]

First of all, congratulations on growing the ba11s to do something like this! The first few times are hard as hell, but trust me, it gets easier as you go.

Now, just for the next approach you do, here's where you need to do some improvement...

I said to her I just wanted to stop by and say hi and tell you how beautiful you are and when I said that she blushed beautifully looked down smiled real big and said well thanks and when she said that I made out like I had to go and said I just wanted you to know that (about her being beautiful) she said oh Ok and I said bye and strutted out.

Personally (since I haven't read your other post(s) about this chick) it's normally not a good idea to start off with a compliment. Attractive women get told that they're beautiful on a regular basis. What you need to work on is conversation. A nice short pleasant conversation will help you develope rapport with a woman, and she'll begin to feel comfortable around you.

Then, you can say something like, "well, I gotta get going, but I'd like to continue this conversation with you. Why don't you give me your number and we'll meet up for coffee sometime?"

This is where the woman should tell you if she's taken or not. You'll be surprised at how easy it is to get a woman's phone number. Lots of them give their number out like candy.

 

[-HPNOTIQ-]

Lonesilver...good to hear you got the balls to go back there and and least do something.

A lot of guys are going to read this and second guess your moves.."don't ever tell a woman that she's beautiful because that is plain and simple supplication/ass kissing..its pedistalling."

That maybe a valid point..but I think the grand scheme of this is that you didn't just sit back and wonder "what if". You made a move, you got nerve, and you did something rather than just talking about the things you could have done.

Some guys here may think that you might have scared her off with the compliment bit b/c she may just think you're some kind of stalker looney kind of perv..giving some off the wall comment like that.

The interesting read here is that she blushed. I would tend to agree blushing is a sign of shyness and of good quality interest level. The only way to find out is to ask her out the next time you are in there. But remember..you can't go back in there 5-6 times this week, say hi, leave, say hi, leave, say hi....blah blah..you'll look like a freggin stalker...hahaha...

Personally, I'd wait another couple days or a week...then the VERY NEXT TIME YOU GO THERE...Ask her out...here's an opener:

"Hey you! Its funny, but come in here so many times I might as well work here... you know..you always help me out but I don't even know your name......Karen is it? Well Karen I'm Silver... thanks for all the help...hey I have to run...here (whips out your cell phone) key in your number and I'll call you sometime and thank you personally with dinner..I know this great rustic italian pizza joint with an awesome happy hour..."

Plain..simple...

I also may be reading into this too much...but while reading your post...I sense a little bit of a self confidence/insecurity problem with you bro. I dont know if you think its your age, or your lack of game, or just your own self demons..but bro..you need to up your confidence and up the thickness of your MENTAL skin.

In your post, you state that you'd be depressed if she turned you down...why the heck for?? Your attitude should be..SHE TURNED ME DOWN? HER LOSS!!

I'm a great guy, sophisticated, good career, my own house, car, well travelled. I'd start reading the DJB more on topics such as confidence.

For whatever dent in your armor....height, weight, education, lack of money, age...no woman will be attracted to a man that is self concious about his insecurities...

Grab your balls bro!!! That's what they're there for!

And good luck...keep us posted bro..

 

[LoneSilver]

Originally posted by Desdinova
First of all, congratulations on growing the ba11s to do something like this! The first few times are hard as hell, but trust me, it gets easier as you go.

Now, just for the next approach you do, here's where you need to do some improvement...



Personally (since I haven't read your other post(s) about this chick) it's normally not a good idea to start off with a compliment. Attractive women get told that they're beautiful on a regular basis. What you need to work on is conversation. A nice short pleasant conversation will help you develope rapport with a woman, and she'll begin to feel comfortable around you.

Then, you can say something like, "well, I gotta get going, but I'd like to continue this conversation with you. Why don't you give me your number and we'll meet up for coffee sometime?"

This is where the woman should tell you if she's taken or not. You'll be surprised at how easy it is to get a woman's phone number. Lots of them give their number out like candy.

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Hi and thanks for the reply. I agree with you about attractive women being told compliments all the time but as I studied this with this lady and the time laspse I felt it OK this one time to go with it to let her know I was still interested.

I do agree too conversation is key and I will be working that part the next time I see her but this lady just seems crazy bold to shy for me you will read about that in my first post so having that on my side I feel I could make some major mistakes along the way but don't intend to make to many hopefully.

But thanks for your advice I will use it sincerely its sounds good.

LoneSilver

 

[LoneSilver]

Originally posted by -HPNOTIQ-
Lonesilver...good to hear you got the balls to go back there and and least do something.

A lot of guys are going to read this and second guess your moves.."don't ever tell a woman that she's beautiful because that is plain and simple supplication/ass kissing..its pedistalling."

That maybe a valid point..but I think the grand scheme of this is that you didn't just sit back and wonder "what if". You made a move, you got nerve, and you did something rather than just talking about the things you could have done.

Some guys here may think that you might have scared her off with the compliment bit b/c she may just think you're some kind of stalker looney kind of perv..giving some off the wall comment like that.

The interesting read here is that she blushed. I would tend to agree blushing is a sign of shyness and of good quality interest level. The only way to find out is to ask her out the next time you are in there. But remember..you can't go back in there 5-6 times this week, say hi, leave, say hi, leave, say hi....blah blah..you'll look like a freggin stalker...hahaha...

Personally, I'd wait another couple days or a week...then the VERY NEXT TIME YOU GO THERE...Ask her out...here's an opener:

"Hey you! Its funny, but come in here so many times I might as well work here... you know..you always help me out but I don't even know your name......Karen is it? Well Karen I'm Silver... thanks for all the help...hey I have to run...here (whips out your cell phone) key in your number and I'll call you sometime and thank you personally with dinner..I know this great rustic italian pizza joint with an awesome happy hour..."

Plain..simple...

I also may be reading into this too much...but while reading your post...I sense a little bit of a self confidence/insecurity problem with you bro. I dont know if you think its your age, or your lack of game, or just your own self demons..but bro..you need to up your confidence and up the thickness of your MENTAL skin.

In your post, you state that you'd be depressed if she turned you down...why the heck for?? Your attitude should be..SHE TURNED ME DOWN? HER LOSS!!

I'm a great guy, sophisticated, good career, my own house, car, well travelled. I'd start reading the DJB more on topics such as confidence.

For whatever dent in your armor....height, weight, education, lack of money, age...no woman will be attracted to a man that is self concious about his insecurities...

Grab your balls bro!!! That's what they're there for!

And good luck...keep us posted bro..

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Good post and I agree 100%. It's a long story on the why I would end up depressed but maybe not so.

But lately I have had a eye condition thats been a thorn in my side and doing what I did today helped what insecurity I have to overcoming it.

I hope this lady didn't detect this with me today and my approach ends up being just another guy wussy with her. But I had planned on going back in a week for sure and feel her out if I pick up on a big smile or vibe and her giving me good eye contact I will approach again and ask her the time she has a break. If I don't see anything good vibe coming from her and I sense shes just took me as another wuss ass then I will move on to the next but with a different approach unless shes real ugly then she would need a good compliment.

Thanks again good post and insight I am here to learn and appreciate anyone who takes the time to post their advice or opinion.

LoneSilver

 

[-HPNOTIQ-]

Originally posted by LoneSilver
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Good post and I agree 100%. It's a long story on the why I would end up depressed but maybe not so.

But lately I have had a eye condition thats been a thorn in my side and doing what I did today helped what insecurity I have to overcoming it.

I hope this lady didn't detect this with me today and my approach ends up being just another guy wussy with her. But I had planned on going back in a week for sure and feel her out if I pick up on a big smile or vibe and her giving me good eye contact I will approach again and ask her the time she has a break. If I don't see anything good vibe coming from her and I sense shes just took me as another wuss ass then I will move on to the next but with a different approach unless shes real ugly then she would need a good compliment.

Thanks again good post and insight I am here to learn and appreciate anyone who takes the time to post their advice or opinion.

LoneSilver

Ahhh..I see...First off, sorry to hear about your eye condition. I'm sure you've tried as many medical procedures to correct it, so I'll assume there isn't much you can do medically.

Maybe a very stylish pair of tinted glasses may help ease some of your insecurity. I'm sure you've tried this too. But honestly, it maybe impossible for me to fully understand what you are going through personally about your eye condition, but, you need to accept it and get over it.

IF THE GAL SEE'S IT BOTHERS YOU....IT WILL SURELY BOTHER HER.

I have a parapallegic friend that goes to nightclubs, bars, chats it up with ladies all over the place..does he get tons of women? honestly no...but...he does get women...and if the woman knows his shortcommings..yet, see's that it doesn't bother him...then THAT'S A QUALITY WOMAN!

My advice to you...don't worry about crashing and burning. You'll just live with the regrets of not trying. What if she quits her job today. All this anxiety, all these posts/comments, all the feelings you've had the past couple days would be for NOTHING. I like another DJ's quote

HESITATION LEADS TO MASTURBATION.

Really, go to that store again and GET THOSE DIGITS. No insecurities, no self confidence issues, no talking to her with the "good eye" in her diretion....get a dark pair of stylish glasses if you must. But, you need to encounter rejection sooner or later...and hell..you attitude should NEVER BE OF REJECTION...you should look at it as her opportunity lost.

Whats the worst that can happen? She says no?? Big freggin whoop!! At least you had balls..there's like 500 million Walmarts all over the states...big freggin whoop!

But...what happens if she says yes???

I'd rather go with 1 million to 1 odds than not playing the game at all...

 

[LoneSilver]

Originally posted by -HPNOTIQ-
Ahhh..I see...First off, sorry to hear about your eye condition. I'm sure you've tried as many medical procedures to correct it, so I'll assume there isn't much you can do medically.

Maybe a very stylish pair of tinted glasses may help ease some of your insecurity. I'm sure you've tried this too. But honestly, it maybe impossible for me to fully understand what you are going through personally about your eye condition, but, you need to accept it and get over it.

IF THE GAL SEE'S IT BOTHERS YOU....IT WILL SURELY BOTHER HER.

I have a parapallegic friend that goes to nightclubs, bars, chats it up with ladies all over the place..does he get tons of women? honestly no...but...he does get women...and if the woman knows his shortcommings..yet, see's that it doesn't bother him...then THAT'S A QUALITY WOMAN!

My advice to you...don't worry about crashing and burning. You'll just live with the regrets of not trying. What if she quits her job today. All this anxiety, all these posts/comments, all the feelings you've had the past couple days would be for NOTHING. I like another DJ's quote

HESITATION LEADS TO MASTURBATION.

Really, go to that store again and GET THOSE DIGITS. No insecurities, no self confidence issues, no talking to her with the "good eye" in her diretion....get a dark pair of stylish glasses if you must. But, you need to encounter rejection sooner or later...and hell..you attitude should NEVER BE OF REJECTION...you should look at it as her opportunity lost.

Whats the worst that can happen? She says no?? Big freggin whoop!! At least you had balls..there's like 500 million Walmarts all over the states...big freggin whoop!

But...what happens if she says yes???

I'd rather go with 1 million to 1 odds than not playing the game at all...

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Yes, thats basically it my eye condition can't improve much and thought of just weariing an eye patch. But as I am now I just walk around like I have a constant wink on and it causes a bit of discomfort in what people might think to the point I think women may think I am winking at them. But I am getting better at just living with it and not worry so much about it and doing this today with this lady helped me greatly.

There is a surgery that will help straighten the eye and I would look better instead of having the one eye going southeast but I still would have the droop and still the wink its hard to explain it all and still would have focus problems. I would be looking at a cost of over $5000 out of pocket as insurance companies are a pain as they look at this as cosmetic.

I just got to keep moving forward the more I do the less I'll think about the eye and just focus on the lady in front of me like today it really felt good I felt like I just got out of prison or something. I don't really think she noticed my eye but I am sure she noticed me with the closed eye though but theres so much more to a man than just his disabilities and maybe this is what she saw today in me and overlooked it on purpose at least I hope.

Again, thanks for the advice I appriciate it more than you know your Ok in my book.


LoneSilver