"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I fancy you

toasttopper1879

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Having a convo with a lass and its going well.All of a sudden she asks"do you fancy me".
This really made me splutter in my head but luckily i was able to get out a witty reply.I replied if you can cook I'll consider you.
Ok so this girls interested,thats not the point.Just any good tips on how to handle this question better if it gets brought up in the future.
I know the word fancy,s pure English but I dont know how you American lads put it.
Cheers
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Pure Drive +

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Top of the mornin' to you! Good reply ol' chap!

:crackup: :crackup: :crackup:

No your response was fine. In the States, the girl says, "Do you like me?" or something like that. You have a good response. Next time you can just kiss her and say, "does that answer your question?"

Okt hat's all chummy! Cherrio!:crackup: :crackup: :crackup:
 

toasttopper1879

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top of the mornings probs irish saying and us are hardly old chap types in the north east of the country.More yer scabby horse types.
the kiss is a bloody good idea aye,but dont yer think it gives too much away too soon.She's bound to ask it again cos she,ll be pushing for a straight answer.
 

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Smooch her mate!!

I agree with puredrive.
Lay a smooch on her the next time she asks that.

This lass is beggin' ya for it... :cheer:
 

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At a certain point in any indirect conversation, you must ALWAYS GO DIRECT. Whether you're following the DJ, RSD, MM, or DYD methodology, they all agree that at some point in the interaction you must be DIRECT. They only differ as to the when/how and whether it's thru words or subcommunication/BL.

Quite frankly, a girl must KNOW that you are interested in here. And hopefully you've established your value at an equal or higher level than hers, but she still must know and in kind, be reciprocating those feelings and actions to you.

Whether you look seductively into her eyes, lick your lips and kiss or simply tell her that you think she's beautiful and that you want to be with her is simply a matter of style and personal comfort. But always keep in mind, ADVANCE THE SARGE! Being stuck in indirect mode ad naseum simply communicates to her that you aren't boyfriend/lover material even if you've established incredibly high value.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Cloud-uk

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Originally posted by JT47319
At a certain point in any indirect conversation, you must ALWAYS GO DIRECT. Whether you're following the DJ, RSD, MM, or DYD methodology, they all agree that at some point in the interaction you must be DIRECT. They only differ as to the when/how and whether it's thru words or subcommunication/BL.

Quite frankly, a girl must KNOW that you are interested in here. And hopefully you've established your value at an equal or higher level than hers, but she still must know and in kind, be reciprocating those feelings and actions to you.

Whether you look seductively into her eyes, lick your lips and kiss or simply tell her that you think she's beautiful and that you want to be with her is simply a matter of style and personal comfort. But always keep in mind, ADVANCE THE SARGE! Being stuck in indirect mode ad naseum simply communicates to her that you aren't boyfriend/lover material even if you've established incredibly high value.
Bloody good advice that. Haven't heard it put better.

By the way we don't say 'top of the mornin', as said, that's only leprichauns.
 

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It's a british expression mate...

"Do you fancy me?" = Do you find me attractive/D'ya wanna fuk?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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AmazingTricks

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So if I liked all this jazzy and amazing stuff I would say "I fancy fancy?". haha lolol...gotta go gotta go...:D
 
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