"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I don't want one.

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I was wondering why girls say, "I don't want a bf right now." Can anybody expand on this? Does this mean they're waiting for the "right" guy, or just that they simply don't want one?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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let's say you ask two girls this question and they both say they don't want a bf right now. one is saying it because she does not want to deal with one all the time or wants to play the field. the other is saying this because she is playing hard to get and wants to intrigue you.

play the field with them and see what sticks.
 

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another one might say that bcuz she doesn't want YOU as a boyfriend, just check the way she says it!
 

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Most of the time it means she doesn't want YOU as a bf. Occasionally it means she actually doesn't have the time to spare for a relationship, and just wants to date casually or not at all. You can find out if she wants to date casually by asking her directly after she says she doesn't want a bf if she is dating casually instead. You'll get your answer.
 

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DJsomeday said:
another one might say that bcuz she doesn't want YOU as a boyfriend, just check the way she says it!
This guy nailed it.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I bet if Brad Pitt asked her out she would want him as a bf...
 

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i got the same situation with a girl about a month ago. she said " i dont want a boifriend " but when we are alone. she tries to touch my hand. and i can easily kiss her. after some kissing action. she says " this is not right i see you as a friend " then we kiss again =) Girls has no logic...so dont thnk logicaly when you come to girls ....
 

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yehh the other girl told me she didnt want a bf now, a week later she was in love.
dont believe her, ask her why. if she say she has loads to do and going on, thats not to believe,
 

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o i just read sumthing that pook wrote bout the language oof woman, i'll copy paste here:


For your reading pleasure, bold will be the woman. Normal text will be the explanation. Italics will be what the Pook man is saying.

I'm not looking for a relationship right now.

TRANSLATED: I don't want a relationship WITH YOU. Don't even BOTHER trying to go out with me since I am saying that a relationship with you and me is already not going to happen.

POOK-MAN SAYS: I was nearby when a woman was giving this 'veiled' rejection to a co-worker. I jumped in, "So if you're not looking for a relationship, then all you're looking for is SEX, is that it?" Her mouth dropped, but I continued. "I don't BELIEVE you women! That's the ONLY thing you have on your minds is SEX, SEX, and MORE SEX! I am looking for a loving relationship, but NO, you women only want passionate raw animal sex! Now with me, I find you need to TASTE the other pleasures in life. So you CAN get your mind off of sex, right?" Her eyes were GLOWING at me. Funny, she suddenly wanted a relationship with me. Hah!
 

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I haven't had anyone tell me that but I've overheard girls talking to other girls about it. I guess that means they really don't have time to spare, or haven't found the right guy.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

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