Hey guys...I have a question about how to handle the good ol' "I'm not interested in a relationship right now" line...Pook et al. say it's just an interesting variant on "No," but I wanted to see what y'all thought about this situation.
BACKGROUND: I had a thing on this girl in 8th grade, and it eventually wore off more or less...we haven't seen each other much since then, but a few weeks ago I asked her on a date---she had high IOL, etc. The date was just about an hour at a coffee shop, we chatted, I got a little bit of kino in, and it was pretty fun. We've talked a bit since then, etc. Then, on Wednesday morning, we were studying for a quiz before classes started, and, during the convo, I asked if she wanted to go out again sometime. She blushed, shrugged, and said "Well, yeah." I couldn't tell if she was not interested, embarrased, surprised, or some combination---and my gut was at a loss as well. Anyway, that night, we have the following AIM convo (comments in italics)
CGord6: Have fun yoga-ing? (Note---we'd seen each other doing yoga after school...it's a way that you can make up a period of gym if you miss one
hb: haha, as always
hb: i was gonna write on ur wall that real men do yoga. way to rock.
CGord6: Thanks...I don't do it as much as I should, but it's actually a really good workout.
CGord6: Before I ever did it, I was all like, "Oh, what little girly men do yoga"
CGord6: Damn was I wrong
hb: HAH
hb: yeeeeeah
CGord6: Hey, so what are you doing this weekend?
Long pause
hb: a lot
hb: unfortunatly
CGord6: lol...yeah, I have like four AP tests...
hb: yeah
hb: we can go for coffee or whatever sometime, but i should warn you that i'm in no position to consider a relationship with anyone
hb: i was sort of seeing that guy from wilton, (another schoo)lbut i even told him that i just can't handle being with anyone right now, i just wanted to let you know I assume this is true---she deleted this guy's posts from her wall on facebook
CGord6: Who mentioned a relationship?
hb: im just saying
hb: i dont ever want to be mean in any way, including being false about stuff like that Oh really, dear? then why does your facebook "looking for" include "A Relationship?" Tsk tsk
CGord6: God, I wish there were more people like that.
hb: haha, thanks
I said a few things about the physics quiz...waited for a response, got none, said I was going to bed, she said, "cya tommorrow, have a good night."
When I saw her in school the next coupla days, we had some good conversation, although she did seem a little more stressed (but I still got some decent IoLs).
So what do you think? I've already moved past her in my mind, but I was wondering what I should do next...I would like to try at something with her, but I can give a damn if it doesn't work out.
BACKGROUND: I had a thing on this girl in 8th grade, and it eventually wore off more or less...we haven't seen each other much since then, but a few weeks ago I asked her on a date---she had high IOL, etc. The date was just about an hour at a coffee shop, we chatted, I got a little bit of kino in, and it was pretty fun. We've talked a bit since then, etc. Then, on Wednesday morning, we were studying for a quiz before classes started, and, during the convo, I asked if she wanted to go out again sometime. She blushed, shrugged, and said "Well, yeah." I couldn't tell if she was not interested, embarrased, surprised, or some combination---and my gut was at a loss as well. Anyway, that night, we have the following AIM convo (comments in italics)
CGord6: Have fun yoga-ing? (Note---we'd seen each other doing yoga after school...it's a way that you can make up a period of gym if you miss one
hb: haha, as always
hb: i was gonna write on ur wall that real men do yoga. way to rock.
CGord6: Thanks...I don't do it as much as I should, but it's actually a really good workout.
CGord6: Before I ever did it, I was all like, "Oh, what little girly men do yoga"
CGord6: Damn was I wrong
hb: HAH
hb: yeeeeeah
CGord6: Hey, so what are you doing this weekend?
Long pause
hb: a lot
hb: unfortunatly
CGord6: lol...yeah, I have like four AP tests...
hb: yeah
hb: we can go for coffee or whatever sometime, but i should warn you that i'm in no position to consider a relationship with anyone
hb: i was sort of seeing that guy from wilton, (another schoo)lbut i even told him that i just can't handle being with anyone right now, i just wanted to let you know I assume this is true---she deleted this guy's posts from her wall on facebook
CGord6: Who mentioned a relationship?
hb: im just saying
hb: i dont ever want to be mean in any way, including being false about stuff like that Oh really, dear? then why does your facebook "looking for" include "A Relationship?" Tsk tsk
CGord6: God, I wish there were more people like that.
hb: haha, thanks
I said a few things about the physics quiz...waited for a response, got none, said I was going to bed, she said, "cya tommorrow, have a good night."
When I saw her in school the next coupla days, we had some good conversation, although she did seem a little more stressed (but I still got some decent IoLs).
So what do you think? I've already moved past her in my mind, but I was wondering what I should do next...I would like to try at something with her, but I can give a damn if it doesn't work out.
