I don't love myself. What now?

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Tomo

Senior Don Juan

Feb 9, 2014

I feel you mate. Think of it this way, you've reached the lowest point you'll be and the only way is up. I found the best thing to start with was developing a routine. At the basis:

-start working out - cardio if you don't have money which leads to...
-get a job so you have the money for the above and to do things
-thirdly find a passion: a sport, an art etc - something that will define you differently from another person.

This is just the start and from here, you can build your life back up my friend and also read the bible. In finding yourself, woman will find you.

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.