"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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"I don't know you well enough"

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Warrior74 said:
you laugh too much shannon which shows that you are lying to yourself and to us.
I'm really not lying.
I don't feel obligated to "Hit it and Quit it"

It's not in me.
I have Chemical Imbalances in my brain, that make me have illusive thoughts,
Some which could make me better of myself, or bring me down.

So when I say "haha" its like I'm just wasting time.


I dont laugh like that in person,
Don't feel too confident to laugh sometimes..
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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when I see all that haha lol lmao in a post it comes off as covering. Just because you hit it doesn't mean you have to quit it. But you do have to hit it. You said yourself it was akward and you hope she doesn't think bad of you...now why would she do that? Why? Because you failed to lead. thats why. We have all been there man. I've done exactly the same thing...which is why I know. And I've done the right thing and went for it. Sometimes the girl said no and meant it and I either left or went to the sofa, sometimes she wanted me to persue hard (always a tough call to make), and sometimes she just wanted me to take charge and lead her to sex.
 
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yeh. I gotcha

Warrior74 said:
when I see all that haha lol lmao in a post it comes off as covering.
yeah, I can't really help that.
Done it since I was about 12.



It seems to just habit.


But yeh, I know what you're saying, at the end of the day and you look back on what you did.. you realize you left out the one thing that girl really needed.. some Lead.


Understand fully. But I can barely love myself right now man.
I get so caught up in people these days I have no time for myself.
I had one girl I could be myself to, but I kissed her and all that stuff..
And she didn't mind of the character defects, So It's all good.

I could open up to her.

but this girl, I tried so hard to open up to her, but you get that feeling like
"Man, She really isn't the one for me" and you know you gotta have the best of the best to get her attention, when she wants nothing at all but you..
I couldn't do it.

Too much on me.
I'd be down there with her dad and stuff.. Looking him in the eye talking to him.

He freaks me out a little. lmfao.
He doesn't laugh for nothing. It's gotta be the funniest thing.

And he'll cross his mind if he wants to. No holding back.

so If I woulda done it, that night.

I woulda had to have a
1. Condom
and.
2. Courage to face the dad..


I didn't have either.
 

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If you're sleeping in the same bed as a girl, the only reason why you shouldn't f*** her is because 1) it's your sister/mom/1st cousin, or 2) it's your best friend's girlfriend. The second is subject to horniness.

Seriously, you have to at least make the effort. If she says no and it's too awkward, go sleep somewhere else. At least you'll have closure.
 
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Flabbergasped? said:
Seriously, you have to at least make the effort. If she says no and it's too awkward, go sleep somewhere else. At least you'll have closure.

I couldn't


It was Quite Akward.

lmfao.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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LostAndConfused said:
This doesn't particularly apply to me, its more general, but what does this mean?

For example, one of my friends (who girls think hes totally hot....he's more attractive than most male celebrities) at my school hit on this really hot chick a grade lower than him, and she seemed totally interested, and after a week he asked her out, and she gave him this answer.

I'm just bringing this up because if girls are honest when they say this, it seems to contradict most PU on this site.
actually i didnt read all the replies, but i think this situation is easy, she says:".. but i dont know u well enough!"
i say:" u'll get to know me enough with time, it's not like we're gona get married tomorrow!" <---make that sound abvious and kinda ****y.
if she insists... i say: "i dont know u enough either.. i cant even see the problem, we're just going for fun"
n **** her life if she insists on rejecting ... ure just trying to be good thats all!
 
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