I am so lost.

[Joeybphs]

Hello sosuave.net, I've like to ask some questions if some of you would be so kind.

I've had a lot happen over the recent months - assault charge, moving schools, lots of things.

I've lost the don juan way, the mojo that made me happy, and I want it back.

My most recent problem is this girl I've run into that has me smitten. I don't have her on a pedistle, but I just feel totally comfortable around her. No girl has ever made me feel so natural just to be around.

Anyway, we met a few months ago, exchanged numbers, set up a movie time and things happened plans got canceled, I moved schools and we hadn't talked for a while. She was singing at a school event and I went to watch her, she sat with me afterwards and started kind of fighting with me over the armrest, hitting me with her leg all kinds of crazy stuff.

since this girl had been occupying my mind in its free time, I decided to just break from everything I knew and tried to be straight up and asked her how she felt. She told me she liked me, but the way I phrased the question could have led her to believe I meant like 'do you think im a cool person.'

Long story short, we were talking Friday night and she was like 'gaah, **** valentine's day.'
So I asked her why, no one had asked her blah blah
.
So I pulled some creativity out of my arse and asked her to be my valentine, to which she said "yes <3"

Now, Saturday we were supposed to get ice cream. However she decided to go to Mardi Gras with some of her girlfriends instead. That's cool, I just told her to have a good time.

Now tomorrow is valentine's day, and I'm still not sure how she feels about me. Maybe I'm totally missing the signs, I was just going to ask her straight up what she thinks of me but I feel like that may be the wrong move (the whole reason I'm here.) So I come to you for help. She said she'd ask if we could do something (we're both 16, though I don't get my license til the 28th.)

So.. what do I do?

 

[eaglez1177]

Hello sosuave.net, I've like to ask some questions if some of you would be so kind.

I've had a lot happen over the recent months - assault charge, moving schools, lots of things.

I've lost the don juan way, the mojo that made me happy, and I want it back.

My most recent problem is this girl I've run into that has me smitten. I don't have her on a pedistle, but I just feel totally comfortable around her. No girl has ever made me feel so natural just to be around.

Anyway, we met a few months ago, exchanged numbers, set up a movie time and things happened plans got canceled, I moved schools and we hadn't talked for a while. She was singing at a school event and I went to watch her, she sat with me afterwards and started kind of fighting with me over the armrest, hitting me with her leg all kinds of crazy stuff.

since this girl had been occupying my mind in its free time, I decided to just break from everything I knew and tried to be straight up and asked her how she felt. bad move here. NEVER ask a girl how she feels about you. That just makes you come off as needy, worrying, and desperate. Always assume that shes interested.She told me she liked me, but the way I phrased the question could have led her to believe I meant like 'do you think im a cool person.'Stop thinking about what she said and just convince yourself shes into you. I mean she said she would be your valentine so to me thats definitely an indicator of interest

Long story short, we were talking Friday night and she was like 'gaah, **** valentine's day.'
So I asked her why, no one had asked her blah blah
.
So I pulled some creativity out of my arse and asked her to be my valentine, to which she said "yes <3"

Now, Saturday we were supposed to get ice cream. However she decided to go to Mardi Gras with some of her girlfriends instead. That's cool, I just told her to have a good time.good move here

Now tomorrow is valentine's day, and I'm still not sure how she feels about me. Maybe I'm totally missing the signs, I was just going to ask her straight up what she thinks of me but I feel like that may be the wrong move (the whole reason I'm here.)Like I said before, this is definitely the wrong move. You will never get anywhere with a girl if you're constantly thinkin about whether she likes you or not. Remember, YOU'RE the prize. She is interested in YOU. So I come to you for help. She said she'd ask if we could do something (we're both 16, though I don't get my license til the 28th.) By this Im guessing she said she would ask her parents if you two could do something? Either way, don't leave the decision up to her. YOU make the move and take charge. Contact her somehow and tell her you want to take her out to a movie/to dinner/for dessert/for lunch/hang at your house/anything (and dont ask, but TELL her what YOU want to do!). Dont be afraid, and go for that kiss close because I know you can get it! Remember though, ASSUME ATTRACTION AND THAT SHE IS INTERESTED AND WANTS TO HOOK UP WITH YOU. Going into it with this mentality will also relieve any nervousness you have about talking to her or kissing her.


So.. what do I do?

Good luck and let us know what happens!

EDIT: and dont worry about the assault charge your record gets wiped clean when you turn 18

 

[Joeybphs]

Well this is kind of gave me that 'heart sinky chest feeling.'
We were talking just a few minutes ago:

Monicaaa. says:
idk. i hate this day.
valentines in general
Joseph says:
i thought you only said that because you didnt have a valentine!
Monicaaa. says:
I have tons. Christie, you, eddie, michelle
its not that.
i just HATE IT

 

[Igetit!]

You need to listen to what Eaglez said and start applying it NOW.

You're already headed towards the friendzone. If you don't step on the brakes with these interactions between you and this girl (and SOON) it'll be all over. In fact,it may ALREADY BE too late.

Well this is kind of gave me that 'heart sinky chest feeling.'
We were talking just a few minutes ago:

Monicaaa. says:
idk. i hate this day.
valentines in general
Joseph says:
i thought you only said that because you didnt have a valentine!
Monicaaa. says:
I have tons. Christie, you, eddie, michelle
its not that.
i just HATE IT

You see this conversation you had with her here? Well she's starting to use you as an emotional tampon. She's starting ramble on about her feelings to you.



You want to date this girl,right? Well you know what you should have done?

You should have told her to SHUT UP.


You allowed her to have the stronger frame,and she pulled you into her negative,Valentine's Day hating world instead of you pulling her into your positive,energetic,upbeat world.


You should have been like,"Hey look,I don't want to hear that trash coming from you. You feeling down because it's Valentine's Day? Well you're in luck.
I've got an idea that's sure to make you feel better. I'm going to (so and so place) today at (whatever time). Come up there hang out with me.

Make sure you wear a low cut shirt in case you drop something on the floor and have to pick it up. Then after being (whatever place you decided)for a little bit,we'll go back to my place and make out on the couch for a while."


That kind of talk will DEFINATELY draw her out of her Valentine's Day funk.

In fact,she'll probably be so shocked/surprised by it,the thought of hating Valentine's Day will completely disappear whenever she thinks of YOU.



You CANNOT be bored and shocked/surprised at the same time.

You can't be bored and have excitement at the same time.


So SHOCK HER. It'll cause her to feel excitement whenever YOU come to her mind.


You need to do SOMETHING because if you don't,her NEGATIVE frame will drag you down....right down to the friendzone.

 

[eaglez1177]

You need to listen to what Eaglez said and start applying it NOW.

You're already headed towards the friendzone. If you don't step on the brakes with these interactions between you and this girl (and SOON) it'll be all over. In fact,it may ALREADY BE too late.




You see this conversation you had with her here? Well she's starting to use you as an emotional tampon. She's starting ramble on about her feelings to you.



You want to date this girl,right? Well you know what you should have done?

You should have told her to SHUT UP.


You allowed her to have the stronger frame,and she pulled you into her negative,Valentine's Day hating world instead of you pulling her into your positive,energetic,upbeat world.


You should have been like,"Hey look,I don't want to hear that trash coming from you. You feeling down because it's Valentine's Day? Well you're in luck.
I've got an idea that's sure to make you feel better. I'm going to (so and so place) today at (whatever time). Come up there hang out with me.

Make sure you wear a low cut shirt in case you drop something on the floor and have to pick it up. Then after being (whatever place you decided)for a little bit,we'll go back to my place and make out on the couch for a while."

That kind of talk will DEFINATELY draw her out of her Valentine's Day funk.

In fact,she'll probably be so shocked/surprised by it,the thought of hating Valentine's Day will completely disappear whenever she thinks of YOU.



You CANNOT be bored and shocked/surprised at the same time.

You can't be bored and have excitement at the same time.


So SHOCK HER. It'll cause her to feel excitement whenever YOU come to her mind.


You need to do SOMETHING because if you don't,her NEGATIVE frame will drag you down....right down to the friendzone.

Igetit hit the nail right on the head, especially in the bold.

And just for the record what I put in red is such an awesome fvcking idea. That would get a chick sooo damn horny she would not be able to resist. As a matter of fact, I really feel like totally shocking a girl right now and saying something along the lines of that.