Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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I am not really sure about push pull also what is Overgaming?

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How do you know if your doing too much teasing in the conversation?

How often should you compliment litterally once in a blue moon?

cute dork i guess is example but how do I input in my brain when I always always one sided guy
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Krueg

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Honestly, I dont think about it anymore. The more experience you have interacting with women, the easier it becomes. Just like learning how to play a musical instrument or learn any other new trade. It might be hard at first, but the more you practice, the better you become.

With MY dating success, it has to be natural with the opposite. I dont force it with tips, tricks, smooth lines or boosting interest. The attraction is there or it isnt. If you try to "create" interest, it only last a little while, cause the real "interest" was never really there.

Dont over-complicate things. WHY are you so worried about her? You should be screening her to see if she is worth your time! Get use to it DJ.
 

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Exactly... you really can't create attraction... it's either there or it isn't. All you can do is reveal the attraction that exists. You learn with experience which women to pursue and which ones not to waste time with because you learn to read her attraction level towards you.

This is where I deviate from Doc. Love who I think is great. He says it's all about interest level... And he is right to a certain degree... But it's NOT just interest level... it's attraction AND interest level. He says a woman has to have at least 50% interest level to have a chance. I say she has to be attracted to you for you to have a chance then you can drive up her interest level.

Attraction is how you look and present yourself. At that point you can lose attraction if you are NOT what you appear to be. But if you are what you look like and she is attracted to you. THEN and only then can you drive up her interest level. Push/Pull is part of that... And it's needed because you can not drive up a woman's interest level unless she puts some effort to getting to know you. You push to see if she will chase you... if she won't then you are not dealing with a woman who will fall for you. She has to be willing to exert some effort or its a waste of time.
 

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thelonewolflegend said:
How do you know if your doing too much teasing in the conversation?

How often should you compliment litterally once in a blue moon?

cute dork i guess is example but how do I input in my brain when I always always one sided guy
You are over-gaming when you have to think about this ****. Game is a feeling, not a thought process. When you feel good, when you love flirting with women, when you can smile and joke because that's what confident high value people do, then you aren't over gaming.

When you are talking and thinking "I wonder if I am smiling too much", "I wonder if I have given too many complements", "blah blah blah", then you have already failed.
 
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