I am lost

[StrengthofWill]

Ok, so here's the deal. So for the last many months, I've been working diligently on creating a better lifestyle for myself. I've read a lot of posts on sosuave about cleaning up, following your dreams, you know carving a place out for myself in the rock of ages. And I've always agreed with it, or else I wouldn't even try. Being blissfully ignorant throughout life is so easy, isn't it?

Thing is, I have nil experience with getting physical with women. As in, I've made out with, and gone down on one girl ever. The way that even happened was wierd and out of drunkenness I'm sure. I mean, before I literally made my dream my life, I would ask girls for their numbers, and take some girls out to some ****ty places and I would freeze. I had such little self-esteem that I couldn't even imagine them with me in the end (being worried about messing up and whatever didn't help either).

Lately however, I'll be out drinking or whatever and I'll get looks from girls like, who is this guy? Which is fine. It's great. I don't know what to do from there. Sometimes, it feels like they get this impression of me that IS true, I mean, I do think that I'm great person. It's just that the sexual side of my equation is way more infantile, in terms of development, and I get stuck.

First off, I don't even know what to do from getting someone interested. But sometimes during a party with like 20 people max at a house, a girl I met for the first time, three hours before, start to run her fingers down my back while I'm doing something. With literally minimal getting to know them. When things like that happen, I freeze and I don't know what to do because I don't want to **** it up.
It's embarassing to have to put this down to drift along the internet, but it's finally come to this.

EDIT: I'm 22 and in a small college.

Help?

 

[KontrollerX]

"Being blissfully ignorant throughout life is so easy, isn't it?"

It is but have no doubt you are on the right path getting away from that mindset and moving instead towards enlightenment.

Look to this place for strength and support in your journey to DJ and manhood.

I strongly urge you to stamp out as much weakness in your character that you can find, kill that AFC thoroughly in this way and you will have the most success.

The symp and AFC mentality has been creeping up more often on the forums lately but so long as you stick to Interceptor and Victory Unlimited posts and the good old DJ Bible for the majority of your life changing advice you should be alright.

As for your current question I would suggest you follow some good and simple advice often given on the forum and that is simply this: "Make the ho say no".

Escalate, put your hands and lips where they yearn to go ever so slowly testing the waters but until she says no do not stop advancing.

 

[everywomanshero]

Ha, worrying about sex is kind of funny and I'll tell you why. The older women get, the less inhibited they are about sex. Now they are bugging me about sex to the point of being annoying because they keep calling for hookups when I don't have the possibility of going over there or I am too tired for anything physical. Worrying about not having enough sex as a man is like worying that the world will run out of carbon dioxide... we are more likely to die from too much than too little.

So for you my friend is it just about staying laid for the next few years until women are pestering you for sex to the point of being annoyed. In the meantime here is what I suggest

1. Keep some numbers coming. Proximity is critical. You need to be meeting some new people each week. Use the internet, hit malls, hit bars & clubs, meet people on campus, etc. Use all your resources or vary them up so new opportunities keep coming up. This is good anyway, keeps life from getting stale. Once you're getting laid regularly you can slow down a bit and spend time with your larger social circle and regulars. When it gets slow, start going out again. It's all about balance.

2. Sex will usually not happen wthout reasonable seclusion. Yes, you might lay some chica in a bathroom, but that's kind of trashy, I'm not sure I would take a chick up on that, especially if the bathroom looked dirty or someone had taken a **** in there recently. Therefore, you need to be in a position where it's at least reasonable for sex to occur. 1) In a car somewhere semi-private (I've done driveways, apt lots late at night, a drive in theatre (use blankets for curtains), or a wooded area. If you're really cheap you might even rent a drive in storage unit to take girls too. Better still if you have your own apt or if she has hers, you can just do it there. Tell her you're bringing over a movie and then go over, pop in the movie, and bang her. Simple as that. Forgot about elaborate james bond moves, 95% of chicks are desperate to get laid so why bother?

3. If you're trying to get sexual experience, then don't confound this process with worrying over every detail like "why hasn't she called me..." kind of crap. It's very weird to have this whole thing where you're trying to pretend to want a LTR from a hookup and it confuses everyone in the process. I don't try to send those kind of signals because I think itactually makes things worse. I just don't talk about it at all and after a while they just kind of fall into place as hookups, sometimes they bring it up but really lately I think it's not been a problem at all. It's like some kind of Jedi ****, when you're OK with being a hookup they sense it and everything falls into place. When you're conflicted, they sense that too and it can get weird.

Best Regards!