HS SS Discussion Group

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Don Juan

Feb 26, 2003

We could discuss the use of SS on high school girls, and practice "patterning on the fly" to each other. We could also share creative descriptive patterning language and other SS wisdom with each other. Another topic that we could look into is the use of SS and NLP to build relationships, not just for pickups and one night stands.

We would also need someone experienced in SS, Vronski perhaps, to be our "mentor" and correct and misconceptions we might have. Perhaps we could restart VSSM and all go through it together.

Anybody interested, IM me or post your contact info.

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.