I split up with a girl about 8 weeks ago. She had no dad, a history of bad relationships, 18 with lots of partners, history of weed and a million other red flags that despite being aware of I chose to ignore in some White Knight attempt to change her. Eventually I saw some sense and ended it.
3 weeks on from the split I had done a lot of reading, made sense of much of it and tried to learn from my mistakes. I hit the gym hard, went out and was feeling good (couple of lays in there too, nothing special). She had moved away so I didn't have to think about her/see her and was total no contact.
I then find out she's now ****ing someone I work with, someone almost twice her age and that potentially it was happening before I ended things. This bothers me and for some reason I can't seem to just "let it go" and not think about it. I have to see this person every day and it's an untimely reminder of her and makes me feel pretty ****ing stupid at work, any hints here about how to just move on?
In addition I also have to work with her mum, she knows full well what her daughter is like but I believe in an attempt to save face has told a completely different story about what happened to some of my friends, again this bothers me, why and how do I move on?
I may have an option to just move away from all this in a couple of months but the point is I feel i shouldn't have too. I have dates lined up with a couple of girls next week, one who is a solid HB8 so this really shouldn't be affecting my happiness but for some reason it is and I want it to stop.
Sorry for the rant but I'm sick of all this playing over in my head, I wish I had never got involved with this girl to start with. As much as the lessons learnt are invaluable for when someone worthwhile comes along it seems to be a very painful lesson so far!
3 weeks on from the split I had done a lot of reading, made sense of much of it and tried to learn from my mistakes. I hit the gym hard, went out and was feeling good (couple of lays in there too, nothing special). She had moved away so I didn't have to think about her/see her and was total no contact.
I then find out she's now ****ing someone I work with, someone almost twice her age and that potentially it was happening before I ended things. This bothers me and for some reason I can't seem to just "let it go" and not think about it. I have to see this person every day and it's an untimely reminder of her and makes me feel pretty ****ing stupid at work, any hints here about how to just move on?
In addition I also have to work with her mum, she knows full well what her daughter is like but I believe in an attempt to save face has told a completely different story about what happened to some of my friends, again this bothers me, why and how do I move on?
I may have an option to just move away from all this in a couple of months but the point is I feel i shouldn't have too. I have dates lined up with a couple of girls next week, one who is a solid HB8 so this really shouldn't be affecting my happiness but for some reason it is and I want it to stop.
Sorry for the rant but I'm sick of all this playing over in my head, I wish I had never got involved with this girl to start with. As much as the lessons learnt are invaluable for when someone worthwhile comes along it seems to be a very painful lesson so far!
