"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How We Screw Up

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As with any skill, it is aquiring a solid foundation in the basics which is most important. Oftentimes though, we forget these all important building blocks for some fancy technique or Philosophy that in the end causes more problems than before. So here is a short list of things than can shoot down ever the greatest DJ game even before he starts.


Personal Hygiene

Remeber to brush your teeth, clean your nails, wash your hair, and take baths regularly. Many timesI have been at clubs or other public places and have encountered the stankest people. Its like" hey here's a dollar, go get some Right Guard or something". If you smoke or have just come form eating, please have mints or some gum ready to kill that smell. Nobody likes smelly people.

Mints are also a great way to start small talk with girls. I have gotten into many conversation just because some girl came up to me asking for a few of the mints I had.


Not being Funny

Okay, I know everybody thinks that they are so hilarious but it is just not true. So if you are trying your hardest to do the C + F thing and it is not working, take a step back and ask yourself whether or not the jokes you are telling actually work. Most of the time the answear is no. If you can't do that, just ask one your friends. But the easiest way is just to see if the people around you are really laughing or are they just giving you the pity laugh.

Unfunny jokes are the quickest way to kill a conversation. They are just plain annoying.


Being Arrogant and Concieted instead of Confident.

This is a biggie. Confindence has nothing to do with picking fights, acting like an *******, or bragging. Too many times I have seen people who are unde the imopression that they have to make somekind of "Statement" in their actions or words to show whose "Boss". While this might impress a few, most will logically see you as a MORON. Confidence is a positve quality. It is not about putting other people down.

Acting Appropriately

Manners, they exist. Cover your mouth when you sneeze. Say please and thank you when appropriate. Treat people with respect. These are simple things that we all enjoy and expect of others. Also pay attention to your surroundings. Not all behavior is appropriate in all surroundings.

Paying attention to these simple things will help your game simple because they will show you to be a person who cares about his impression.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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