"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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How to Turn a Platonic Friendship with a Female Friend Into a Relationship

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[From Zen-Articles]

"Men and women are so different its amazing they can even talk to each other." - Uncredited



Short answer: You can't so don't bother trying. Go concentrate on the hundreds of millions of other awesome single girls available to you in this world.



Long answer: No seriously, its next to impossible. You're wasting your vital energy even thinking about it.



I know this girl might seem like "the one" or she may even be the girl of your dreams, but the cold fact still remains-- you're in the friendship zone with her and once you are in this zone, not even a blessing from Lord Shiva can lift you out of it.



The secret is to not ever get in the "friends zone" in the first place. You do this by asking women out. If you clearly state your intentions at the very beginning of your relationship, there will be no mistake in her mind which group of people to lump you in (the potential boyfriend group or the girlfriend group). Don't be another one of her girlfriends.



Its much better for a woman to know your intent than for you to be nebulous around. That just creates mixed emotions in her mind. The man of her dreams isn't someone she has mixed reactions about. Be bold, be yourself. Not every woman is going to like you, but they will all respect you, and that makes all the difference.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Ahhh if only someone had sent me the memo on this six months ago. Would have saved me months of agony...
 

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Now I'm not saying you're wrong, but I've had girls who are friends (granted we flirt) and they've gave me some very big opportunities to sleep with them from in the past.

Unfortunately I this was before I visited this site and understood what they were trying to tell me.
 

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Jon55 said:
Now I'm not saying you're wrong, but I've had girls who are friends (granted we flirt) and they've gave me some very big opportunities to sleep with them from in the past.

Unfortunately I this was before I visited this site and understood what they were trying to tell me.
This was my problem. I had a friend who was flirting with me and maybe wanted something physical...but she wouldn't even consider a relationship.
 

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whatever guys i can turn a platonic friendship into more very easily and have dont many times and continue to do so. yes, fair enough sometimes you'll simply be in the friendzone and thats it but if you have that edge then why wouldnt they be interested?

thing is, you HAVE to have social status, good looks, good personality or something that causes her to be attracted to you. the reason alot of people struggle with the transition is because the girl knows you and then its too late to put on an act. if she knows you as a winner then this is different. i broke up with my gf of 3 years and have got off with several 'friends' i was previously in the 'friendzone' with - i found it easier than getting new people actually!


i dont believe in that friendzone BS for the most part. if you're attractive in some way then girls will be attracted to you sometimes moreso if you had prior sexual indifference to them in my experience
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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