"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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How to Stop Thinking

SuPaF1y

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Coach Bill Fletcher asked me to write a tip to help his players stop thinking about the outcome when faced with a slightly downhill four-foot putt. Thinking about the outcome causes his players to look up too soon or not follow through on their putting stroke and miss the putt. He felt his players might listen if this advice came from a mental trainer instead of their coach.

The best way to stop thinking about the outcome is to stop thinking period. Without any thoughts you are free to play without any negative emotions to cloud your gut feelings and instincts.

You can write a very philosophical book about why and how to stop thinking. To keep this brief, let's get to the essence of the issue. Our minds love to think. Our egos identify with our thoughts. We believe our thoughts give us control over the outside world.

However, Zen masters and enlightened individuals know that non-thought allows them to be one with the universe and function at a very high level. Golfers who have been fortunate to play in the zone know from experience that thinking immediately takes them out of the zone.

You can not think your mind into stop thinking because in the process you give your mind more food for thought. The only alternative is to just stop thinking, which to the unaware goes against their world view.

You can minimize your thoughts by focusing solely on your breathing or seeing the ball being hit. Through meditation you can train your mind to stop thinking, but it is very hard to play golf with your eyes closed. What I have found that works extremely well for me is to focus solely on my target and just stop thinking.

The way I trained my mind to stop thinking was by having a very thorough understanding of how my tape operates and using the Daily Affirmation in The Mental Keys to control it. During the process of doing my best to always tell the truth and eliminate all negative emotions, I was forced to stop thinking and witness all of my thoughts and actions.

After many years of using the Daily Affirmation to train my mind to select only the emotions that I chose to go on my tape, I found that I could literally stop thinking if I wanted to. Instead of being angry or having fear, I can now just stop thinking and be totally in the present.

It takes time and effort to train your mind to stop thinking, but it can be done. By making the Daily Affirmation a priority in your life, you will learn how to stop thinking and optimize your chemistry which will allow you to play in the zone on a frequent basis.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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wow dude that was really good and interesting. I will give that a try today. thanks for posting.
 

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"You may not post copyrighted material here without first obtaining the permission of the author. You may include excerpts from an article as long as credit is given to the author of the article(s). You may provide a link to any relevant article"

Thats one of the rules you agreed to before being allowed to post to this site. Respect boy, sometimes people don;t want you going off claiming theirs as your own.

I knew immediately you were too young to be posting an advice column that a coach requested from you. So don't try to see all big, take the first part off, it's NOT you at all! edit the freaking page, becuase it is all lies, you think we're going to repsect you more for that?

I for one think you are now a flaming idiot. Indifference my ass.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Laugh all you want kid, doesn't make you any more of a man.
 
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