How to stand out?

[Aldo]

Alright, so I'm like 90% sure this girl's interested in me. Signs:
- She jokes with me and teases me
- She laughs at my jokes
- She likes to initiate kino (touches my ear when talking about my ears, touches my hands when talking about my hands, touches my arm to get my attention, etc.) and she usually starts conversation
- She sometimes makes sexualized jokes with me (like I mentioned something about my body being lighter than my face and she was like "Let's see it")
- Never denies me being hot when I make jokes about it

But the only problem is that, like every other single person, she's not only interested in one person.

So my question is: How do I stand out from the others? How can I make her want me more than the other guys she's interested in?

I guess it's worth mentioning that I think she chose me, seeing as to how she's the one who started the teasing and she talked to me first. I just responded well.

 

[jeffthechef]

You dont do any one thing to stand out...You dont consciously try to stand out. It should be natural.

You take her out. Keep things in your life going as they are, or better. Take her out again when you find time. And every time you're out with her, if you're genuinely an interesting and worthwhile man, she'll recognize it. This is why it's natural.

What do you want out of your relationship? FWB's, relationship?

 

[thedoc]

You dont do any one thing to stand out...You dont consciously try to stand out. It should be natural.

You take her out. Keep things in your life going as they are, or better. Take her out again when you find time. And every time you're out with her, if you're genuinely an interesting and worthwhile man, she'll recognize it. This is why it's natural.

What do you want out of your relationship? FWB's, relationship?

Yeah, you're completely right jeffthechef.

Every single day after finding this site I realize more and more exactly what "naturally standing out" or being an alpha means. And most of that means improving your inner-game as much as you possibly can! Most people don't want to hear this but that's because they don't know exactly what that means. As you improve your inner-game, you WILL naturally stand out. Until you have this mindset, you really won't get much further than you already are.

There are probably hundreds of excellent posts on this site you can read about this, including the dj bible. But reading is only going to get you so far, you have to start applying the ideas and trust me, things will start to click. I know they are for me.

As of now, there is really one thing you should focus on. Keep improving yourself and don't make this girl your oneitis! Don't be afraid to screw up and lose her and get into the mindset that she has to WIN YOU.

Now, this forum, when I'm around my family, and when I'm around my closest friends are the only times I feel like I don't have back my words with confidence. So, if anyone reading this thinks I'm giving wrong advice, PLEASE comment !

 

[Wildstyle]

I agree, you should always behave naturally, like an Alpha male - cool, calm, and collected.

However... i feel you need to start showing intent. Based on what you’ve said its obvious that shes throwing ioi's at you.

Fuk standing out bro, this turkeys done, take it out of the oven and enjoy.

In other words ask her out and do what you gotta do, whether its starting a relationship or aiming for a gud fuk.

Just remember she wont always be throwing iois at you. So Act now.
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“Go Big or Go Home”

 

[keepitirie]

ookkk. these guys are right... they say that you need to be natrual.. and alpha.. the problem? they havent told you what you need to do now...

OK. you say this girl is interested in you, but does this to every other guy... it doesnt seem like shes interested in you .. just interested in guys.

What you need to do:
stop paying attention to her! this girl love male attention. not specifically you. you need to make yourself scarce. When you do this she'll wonder why youre not in her life anymore. when she kinos, pull away. BE polite, but not nice. dont do **** for her...

Give subtle attention to her. every now and then, pay attention to her. Give her the attention she wants or else she'll lose interest. kino her, let her kino you once in a while when it benefits you.. this means that youre going to have to start initiating kino after some time.

if you havent, set up a date with her.. not just with her, but her to hang out with you and some of YOUR friends... preferably a female friend of yours. do something FUN. i like drinking.. but if you're not into that, then find something. get lunch or something. but you need to show when you're hanging out that you are kinoing other girls too, and that you are fun to hang around with. if you want, let your friend know you want this chick. wth, she might try to help.

after this, she should be into you, more so than all other guys that shes seeing. However, my experience with these kinda girls isnt very good--relationship wise. they tend to want to hook up with other guys(hell i dont care, i hook up with other girls)... but if you follow what i said, she'll be really into you, and want you.

however, if you dont keep it up, she'll lose interest, and fast. you always have to be having a good time around her, and being dominant with her. if you need routines.. thats ur job.. ive already told you what to do, you fill in the blanks and carry out the plan.

also.. dont get down on yourself if you dont get what it means to be natural. for now, just constantly try to watch your emotions and how you think.. if you start thinking negative things, dont try to change it right there. for now, just try to be aware of yourself at all times. its fvcking hard, but it gets easier and easier over time.

and dont kid yourself with the bs.. that she chose you are you responded well. if thats true, you'd already have hooked up with her by now. be aware of who you are now. dont put up shields, thats just limiting your potential. be open and build yourself