They were talking about how a woman who had been in a relationship with a man still vividly remembered him even after being dumped.
In this case, the man had behaved like an abuser, and had given her the emotional fluctuations she needed.
It's like a drug addict or an alcoholic going through withdrawal.
The drug ****tail is something they've experienced and have memories of, and so, even though they're now on a repression diet, they still remember those things, like the most intense emotions of their lives.
How many times have you heard that woman complaining about her boyfriend, either to friends or on social media?
This quote really says it all...
But once her mood changes, does she happily post about how close they are and how they've reconciled?
This certainly has a name, and it's something that happens when she senses something's wrong, but can't help but feel relieved because she's now responding to that ****tail of emotions, and she's validated for being the victim, and therefore also receives confirmation that "she's doing the right thing."
Then, if we consider that Cluster B women are prone to addiction, this means they love and are unable to detach themselves from men who make them feel these kinds of emotions, precisely because they're predisposed to it.
As Desdinova says, I believe there's a certain predisposition for "all women," but not all of them let the abuse go on for too long. Some, the healthier ones, manage to recognize it and distance themselves, protect their boundaries, and manage to overcome it and find another kind of man.
This isn't clear and should be explored further.
Well, at this point, can we call it trauma?
There are many things that can happen in life that people can overcome through therapy.
The same can happen to men, in other areas.
Let's be honest: we understand that this works and affects women, but does it create trauma in them?
Does it make them relive trauma? (Abusive parent, toxic relationship, difficult childhood, child abuse, etc.)
I believe that if a human being responds "positively" to a certain behavior, it's not just because it's rooted in their biology (says Desdinova), but actually because it's their imprinting.
If a woman had an abusive father, her nervous system unconsciously responds well to a boy who abuses her.
And we're all creating new theories about how this boy will always be in her mind. Of course, until she meets a guy who's even more abusive than her and who more closely resembles what her imprint suggests.
I'd really like to hear your opinion from a healthy perspective, not just from a point of view of conquest, or to let people know that you understand how women work.
PS: This man is very insecure, and therefore, in and of itself, generates a lot of emotional fluctuations in her, having gaps and abusing her. But what if the man were confident? How can a confident man generate emotional fluctuations if he's stable, reliable, a safe haven?
