"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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well my social circle is slowly expanding since i moved to where i am now.

So i have a few invitations for NYE but none that i really feel comfortable going to.

A girl i was talking to that i didn't realize had a BF invited me to a club party. I also met a few of her friends some of which are real chill. I have only met them all once besides the main girl which i met a few times. The reason why i don't want to go to this is because i don't know anybody. On top of that I would be going alone and i don't really dance that much nor am i great at socializing. I pretty much keep to myself and will talk to whoever i want to talk to.

Got invited to my co-workers dinner thing with a bunch of his girls friends. This sounds pretty cool since i don't like big crowds but they've switched places a few times and nothing is set in stone.

Got invited to my partners NYE party as his house. His crowd of people are not the people i want to spend NYE with. They're all ugly, and being real, i want to atleast have some eye candy to enjoy the night if i am going out.

All my others friends have girls and are doing their thing. Even some of the single bachelors just picked up random chicks a month or so before just so they could spend it with someone during the holidays. I'm not gonna third wheel any of their nights, especially on NYE.

I could also spend it working on my business projects and being productive.

People talk about meeting girls, man i just want a good homeboy that's down to chill.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Im in a situation similar to yours,if I were you I would stick to option nr2 and dine with the co-workers,you know them and if you find yourself unable to socialise you could talk about common things at work.

However if you dont feel it,just focus on your work and be productive,just don't pay too much attention on those "social must" like the holydays,we already have enough stress.
It seems like having fun on certain days is becoming a second job or a standard to evaluate winners and losers,dont believe those bvll****.
 
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I am going to spend new year's eve not getting a dui. The state of Illinois is broke and planning to raise money by putting dui checkpoints everywhere.
 
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AAAgent, what do YOU think is the right thing to do?

where do you think you are the most welcome?

where are you going to feel comfortable and enjoy NYE?

just answer those questions, make your own decisions rather than asking others from here because we will not have the full idea of what is going on in your life:)

hope this helps, man! Have a good time...
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If you go out with co-workers, don't be that guy who talks about work stuff.
I think I read a thread in here about company Christmas parties...maybe that was some other article.

I've had some good ones, but New Years Eve is for amateurs ... unless you go to St. Barth's.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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i lost the benefit of driving around since i moved around the city. Can't really drive much.

I decided i'll probably chill back. I'm trying to save money for a bike early next year. I'm also going out saturday and the saturday after that which is alot for me. I have a tendency to drop sh1tload of money when i go out.
 
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Bible_Belt said:
I am going to spend new year's eve not getting a dui. The state of Illinois is broke and planning to raise money by putting dui checkpoints everywhere.
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Uhm, this is just an idea but errr...then don't drink and drive......!?

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<-- going to mexico (this friday) for 1 week

Going to spread my genetics :up:
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Going off to knock up some Mexicans are you? Have fun with the drama and alimony :p

OP, the dinner things sounds awesome. You have something in common, you know someone there and there are girls. Sounds like an excellent opportunity to get to know a couple of broads:)
 
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