"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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How to say "I dont like you"

Babnik

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Some girls think you like them but you don't. I know 2 like that. I often need to talk to them about school work but they play games with me... What do I do? I don't want to be mean and say "I don't like you, I just want info from you"... Everything I do they take as a part of the game and flirt and they have REALLY high self esteem, but I think they are ugly and I don't want them one bit! It drives me nuts because I need professional communication with them!

They act hard to get while I am not trying to get them...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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00Kevin

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This is what I do.

I tell them this.

There are 4 main things that I think are important in a relationship.

1. physical
2. personality
3. values
4. religion

then you can just give the relationship a score card out of 4 and let her down using logic.
 

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well when a girl likes me like that I run and try to ignore her lol.
 

00Kevin

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underdog said:
well when a girl likes me like that I run and try to ignore her lol.
In other words you act like a child.

It is funny though :)
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Jay Jay

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You don't.

**** man!

There is no reason to tell a girl you are not interested unless it is obvious her feelings for you is causing her pain or harm

In fact the more girls who like you and want to flirt with you the better things are.

There is thing called "social proof." Check it out in the Bible then come back to me.

Okay, you with me now brother?

When girls like you it sends a mesage to every other chick; "prize!"

Secondly, girls can be your best asset in getting other chicks. They have friends, you can go along to chick **** that is too embarrassing for a man to go to alone, you can practice flirting, get fashion tips and get really good at relating to women.

As for this problem, obviously of titanic proportions, where they are too busy trying to seduce you to get on with proffessional business, how about just saying it straight up, "excuse me ladies, can you please stop thinking about ****ing me until we have this report completed?"

But if you really feel that you need to let them know you are not interested I would suggest asking them to come out and help you pick up chicks. That will give em the message and if they really are that high self esteem then you might just have gotten yourself a few awesome pivots.

Cheers
JJ
 

DJ Alejandro

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basically, if a girl tells you she likes you, you say..

I like me too. :)
 

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Girl: "I think I like you"
You: "Man, I know I'm cool and all, your mom and me have been kinda....you know, so I'm kinda taken"

PAIN! :rockon:
 

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Babnik said:
Some girls think you like them but you don't. I know 2 like that. I often need to talk to them about school work but they play games with me... What do I do? I don't want to be mean and say "I don't like you, I just want info from you"... Everything I do they take as a part of the game and flirt and they have REALLY high self esteem, but I think they are ugly and I don't want them one bit! It drives me nuts because I need professional communication with them!

They act hard to get while I am not trying to get them...
Play it like you have a girlfriend already. Then you can be the funny charming guy, but you're taken (of COURSE you are!), so you can still be kind.

See, the problem is, I had a girl chasin' me down, calling... and we had talked been friends before she started acting weird... so she had happened to figure it out that I was available. Now that excuse was gone, so I just had to tell her that she couldn't call me any more. I hated doing it, but sometimes, when someone just doesn't get it, you have to be upfront. Not nasty, but clear and upfront.

But I recommend the girlfriend excuse, but only IF you're smart and can think on your feet. If you're hitting on other chicks both before and after the girlfriend claim, then the excuse won't hold water.

And about the flirting... don't flirt back (duh), but act clueless about them flirting with you until they make it OBVIOUS. Then give them the girlfriend line.
 

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Jay Jay said:
**** man!

There is no reason to tell a girl you are not interested unless it is obvious her feelings for you is causing her pain or harm

In fact the more girls who like you and want to flirt with you the better things are.

There is thing called "social proof." Check it out in the Bible then come back to me.

Okay, you with me now brother?

When girls like you it sends a mesage to every other chick; "prize!"

Secondly, girls can be your best asset in getting other chicks. They have friends, you can go along to chick **** that is too embarrassing for a man to go to alone, you can practice flirting, get fashion tips and get really good at relating to women.

As for this problem, obviously of titanic proportions, where they are too busy trying to seduce you to get on with proffessional business, how about just saying it straight up, "excuse me ladies, can you please stop thinking about ****ing me until we have this report completed?"

But if you really feel that you need to let them know you are not interested I would suggest asking them to come out and help you pick up chicks. That will give em the message and if they really are that high self esteem then you might just have gotten yourself a few awesome pivots.

Cheers
JJ


No no....a girl obviously likes me but plays HARD TO GET!! See, she tries to give me playful crap because she THINKS I am interested in her. Usually I would talk back and play back by IGNORING the crap that she gives. I would show no interest! Girls dig that and it turns them on even more. However, I act the SAME when I am TRULY not interested! Get it? She thinks I am playing her or trying to but I am truly not wanting her.

So, I found a solution....I tell her "You are the most gorgeous thing in the world. Guys should fall on their knees in front of you and kiss your feet!" and then my friend says "Dude, she is so ugly, why did you say that?" and I say "So that she can STOP that dumb stuff and finally get with our management project!"

So, me saying those things isn't because I FEEL this way but so that she can screw off! I don't want her so I don't feel supplicating when I say those things. Its like "I will say whatever, just get with the program, stop flirting"


She plays SO hard to get that she made her ex wait a year before they went out...

I HAVE TO work with her. We are on the same management team!
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Dude, I know exactly how you feel...

I have a girl who's throwing herself at me...She's an ug, great personality but an ug nonetheless. A group of my friends are trying to set her up with me, i've told them I have no interest in her...

Even tonight, I had a convo with one of her friends...She said something like "Girls throw themselves at you, but your too nice of a guy to take the opportunities" something like that...

I replied with, roughly: "What do you mean when u say i'm too nice to take opportunites? are u sure that isn't just me being picky?"

she said "that was an ******* comment, haha lol"
 
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