"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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How to move from the friends zone, ( kinda )

DJnoobie420

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Hey i've been friends with this girl for a while, and she has really showed intrest when i was testing the water with kino last week and what not.

Also, two of her good freinds also said she's into me, so i know there's definite intrest. But i also know for a fact she's not down for dating right now, and that's fine, im don't really have time time for a relationship either casue im busy with university and what not.

But what i am down for is a piece of ass, and im sure she is too. So this friday we have plans to chill, and i wanna make a move and get some, but because we've been friends for 5 months im not quite sure to go about it, usually i kino a chick hardcore right when i meet her if i like her, and this sets the mood and makes it easy to make sexual progression. But becasue of the situtaion i don't kno how to go about it, so any advice would be great for this 18 year old chump!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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BlackJackal

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DJnoobie420 said:
Hey i've been friends with this girl for a while, and she has really showed intrest when i was testing the water with kino last week and what not.

Also, two of her good freinds also said she's into me, so i know there's definite intrest. But i also know for a fact she's not down for dating right now, and that's fine, im don't really have time time for a relationship either casue im busy with university and what not.

But what i am down for is a piece of ass, and im sure she is too. So this friday we have plans to chill, and i wanna make a move and get some, but because we've been friends for 5 months im not quite sure to go about it, usually i kino a chick hardcore right when i meet her if i like her, and this sets the mood and makes it easy to make sexual progression. But becasue of the situtaion i don't kno how to go about it, so any advice would be great for this 18 year old chump!
Lol...I hope you do know that once you cross the line nothing will be the same between you two. Even if you attempt and fail. For every gain there's a sacrifice though. So you're gonna have to disregard her as a friend and take her as you would take any other woman. There's no magic way man. Know what you want and take it
 

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BlackJackal said:
Lol...I hope you do know that once you cross the line nothing will be the same between you two.
This is one of those statements that is so true you can only really appreciate it once you experience it.
 

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Man i made good friends with this chick, real good friends.

Then she had to go to university and i suddenly got feelins for her and vice versa....

It ended up in a mess...thats before i became a DJ.

we're still friends tho.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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So Djnoobie, die you ever get down with your girl this friday?
 

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In all honesty i didn't. In the first part of the evening i had friends over all night, and we were playing poker so i didn't exactly get to make amove. The later on in the evening we finally got some alone time up in my room.

And all that ended up happening there was that she confessed her feelings, but didn't want to act because she's not over this other guy yet, and he's pretty good freind of mine, and that it would complicate things and that she needed till after x-mas till decided what's up. I told her, " baby, i ain't second best and i never will be, i havn't worked this hard in my life to be second best, and i wont take it. so basically if you don't get your head straight real soon, you missed out and this opportunity will be forgone."
 

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hey DJnoobie,

You handled that pretty well. There could have been way worse ways to go about it.

But, a better way to handle it woudl be to actually take action and go for the kiss.

So what was her decision?
 
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