WC2
Master Don Juan
(An excerpt from one of my posts years ago.. the dude was asking how to become more natural when he goes out so he can pick up women.)
Being a DJ doesn't become natural until you make a habit of it.
Reading a bunch of advice may steer you in the right direction, but it's your job to put your foot on the gas. From there, the goal is keep pushing until you've finally reached cruise control where you can coast without thinking about it.
We call this HABIT.
For instance, if you make a habit of walking into a bar and not approaching everyone, you never will.
If you start doing this tomorrow, maybe it will incline you to do it the next time.
If you do it for a week, a month straight, it will become habit.
As simple as that. There's no magic pill, just repetition that will get you to your goal.
Try this on for size :
Next time you go to a bar, say hello to everyone, give them a hug, a kiss on the cheek, a handshake, WHATEVER it is that you do. Then pick a random person you know and ask them how they've been, how school is going, what they're drinking, what else they like to drink, WHATEVER it is that you talk about.
Do this to everyone you see the whole night.
Now, this is in no way how you game women, but it does make a HABIT of talking to people.
Once you become comfortable around people, your confidence will naturally shoot up and this is when you start moving your feet around and going past your boundaries and taking risks. Joking with women. Telling women that they should dress more like you. Creating laughter, whatever.
The idea is to get in the habit of being comfortable so you can start taking risks and living on your EDGE.
Imagine a knife. The dull end is you when you're boring and the tip is your when you're spontaneous. When you fall off the knife on the sharp end, you've maybe gone a little too far. The idea is to LEAN on the EDGE of the sharp tip and take risks without going too far. Once you've taken a risk, pull back and regain your balance. Then go back in for another risk.
With every risk you take, your knife gets larger. Before you know it, the risks you took before are just you when you're yourself, in the middle of the knife.
We call this improvement.
Being a DJ doesn't become natural until you make a habit of it.
Reading a bunch of advice may steer you in the right direction, but it's your job to put your foot on the gas. From there, the goal is keep pushing until you've finally reached cruise control where you can coast without thinking about it.
We call this HABIT.
For instance, if you make a habit of walking into a bar and not approaching everyone, you never will.
If you start doing this tomorrow, maybe it will incline you to do it the next time.
If you do it for a week, a month straight, it will become habit.
As simple as that. There's no magic pill, just repetition that will get you to your goal.
Try this on for size :
Next time you go to a bar, say hello to everyone, give them a hug, a kiss on the cheek, a handshake, WHATEVER it is that you do. Then pick a random person you know and ask them how they've been, how school is going, what they're drinking, what else they like to drink, WHATEVER it is that you talk about.
Do this to everyone you see the whole night.
Now, this is in no way how you game women, but it does make a HABIT of talking to people.
Once you become comfortable around people, your confidence will naturally shoot up and this is when you start moving your feet around and going past your boundaries and taking risks. Joking with women. Telling women that they should dress more like you. Creating laughter, whatever.
The idea is to get in the habit of being comfortable so you can start taking risks and living on your EDGE.
Imagine a knife. The dull end is you when you're boring and the tip is your when you're spontaneous. When you fall off the knife on the sharp end, you've maybe gone a little too far. The idea is to LEAN on the EDGE of the sharp tip and take risks without going too far. Once you've taken a risk, pull back and regain your balance. Then go back in for another risk.
With every risk you take, your knife gets larger. Before you know it, the risks you took before are just you when you're yourself, in the middle of the knife.
We call this improvement.