How To Maintain a LTR

[P.I.M.P.]

I'm seeing quite a few posts not about how to approach chicks or #close them, but rather what the hell to do with this newfound oddity you call a girlfriend when you keep her. In trying to come up with replies to these questions, I could only ask myself one question.

How do I do it?

Well let's review!

I only see her two, sometimes three times a week. Rarely three times. The rest of the time I'm busy with my own life. Whether it's working, hanging out with my buds, or whatever I'm up to, I'm always busy. Not a day goes by I have nothing to do, so I never have time to sit and worry about how to keep the girl!

I don't talk to her for hours on the phone. Twenty to thirty minutes max, every night. I can hear it now. You afc! The bible says don't call all the time! And this is why I don't let the bible dictate every aspect of my life. I go with what is best in the given situation, we enjoy talking to each other and seeing how each others day was, so we talk on the phone everynight. Keep in mind, this isn't hour long romance convos, it's just seeing how the other persons doing and taking the time to say hi. (She usually calls me though. )

I give her good sex. Chicks LOVE sex. And whats great about that is so do men. Remember those two sentences and your scoring odds will increase! Pay attention to detail, let her know you enjoy railing her brains out. BRING THE FREAK OUT OF THEM MAN!

I don't give her flowers or presents all the time. I give her flowers only when I feel it would be deserving, or the 'perfect moment'. A guy can screw a HBs brains out, have his own life and still find time to pull out some nice little romantic tricks, right guys?

She knows flat out if any bullsh*t happens, it's completely over. Her cheating on me is completely unacceptable, and I will not cheat on her (I slipped up one time though, but I learned from it). She knows I love her, but I'm man enough to walk if she screws up. It's a mutual understanding.

The last thing that comes to mind is I genuinly CARE about her. I want to see her happy (don't get me wrong, my own well being comes first) and I want to see her enjoy life like I do. She always has something interesting to talk about, and she's flat out hilarious at times, I love even talking to her. That is the main key to making a LTR work. You both have to actually care for one another, or else it just won't work. Try all you like to keep it going, it will eventually fall apart.

Well there you have it, the methods I use to keep my LTR going strong and healthy. Hope it helps some of you guys out.

And remember (my new favorite quote): Don't over-analyze the god damn bible.

(EDIT: Sh*t, forgot to add, I've been with my g/f for almost a year and a half, so these are pretty solid LTR tips I think lol)

 

[The Bishop]

Your Ltr sounds a lot like my normal relationships, minus the daily 30 minute conversations over the phone, and the flowers

One thing- It would be impossible to limit the contact to twice a week if your girlfriend goes to the same school as you, but dont become whipped. My friend is in a really good LTR where they are together for maybe 30 minutes over the course of the day. The balance between too much and too little is a hard one to find in an LTR, but from what ive observed letting her hang out with her friends more often is the best thing to do.

 

[P.I.M.P.]

Don't get me wrong, I'm not all about the flowers. I've given her maybe 3, 4 flowers since we started going out? Like I said, only when she's REALLY deserving (such as giving me 7 orgasms in one day ).

Yeah, we do go to the same school, but I only ever spent one lunch hour a week with her. The rest of the time I was outside, making my money(don't ask!).

And I'm far from whipped lol. All her friends call HER out on being whipped all the time, it's quite amusing. And this girl is a near 10! It's not easy being a DJ.

 

[Wont Stop Mackin]

AMEN!

Finally a post i can relate to.....It seems as tho me and you are a lot a like, minus a few things, which could be due to circumstances or otherwise, but i have had a gf for about 5 months now, not nearly as long as a year and a half but still pretty long, and you are COMPLETELY correct when you said " DONT OVER-ANALYZE THE BIBLE " i feel as tho sometimes the bible is giving you good advice in how to GET girls, but bad advice on how to KEEP girls, its all about maintaing a certain balance, you cant just not call, or call whenever you want, if you dont pay ENOUGH attention she will find someone who does, and if you pay TOO much attention... well i think we all know what happens then... but once you get to that point where you care about her and you KNOW she cares about you, its all about balance you really shouldnt have to worry about anything else, but until you are confident you are there, dont let a girl fool you with her " i love you's " just because she thinks shes in love due to heavy DJing......

my 2 cent....

 

[P.I.M.P.]

Bump.

 

[Daniel1099]

great post

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[cw92]

Bump

Very good

Ive been doing about 20-40 min convos but similar to you